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Anyone with a PDA diagnosis, please talk to me about it!

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popgoestheweezel Mon 28-Jan-13 17:24:46

I need advice and your experiences of getting PDA diagnosed please.
We are sure that ds (6) has PDA, two years ago we were referred by our GP for investigation. We have seen the community paed three times now and they have referred us to SALT, OT and ed psych which were turned down because school has to do interventions first. He has had blood tests and they all came back OK (some borderline but apparently fine). They've also given us a GARS form to fill in.
At home, we give him a variety of supplements which have really helped, we're very careful with his diet and he does OT-type exercises twice a day for the last year which have helped too. But still he cannot cope with the ordinary demands of life.
At school, he has better times and bad times. He has attended a social communication group but that didn't make any difference. Initially we heard a lot about him growing out of it, then they told us he was sociable (i.e.. not typically autistic) so there was 'nothing they could do'.
Eventually, we wrote to the newly appointed head quoting from SENCOP about barriers to learning and failing to fulfill potential and he arranged for us to have a meeting with the ed psych. She gave us a CAST to fill out, in which he scored just into ASD territory.
On tuesday we had another meeting with ed psych, teacher and senco. The teacher said how worried she was about him and we said the same. The ed psych said that he had ASD traits but not enough. I have been politely mentioning the fact that we believe he has PDA throughout every meeting/appt we have but no one seems to take any notice!
Ed psych told us she plans to observe ds again this week so we have written saying that we are convinced it is PDA and that it will be hard for her to observe as children with PDA typically behave better in school then release the pent up stress at home.
So, what do we do next?

popgoestheweezel Wed 06-Feb-13 12:51:12

I also think 'demand avoidance' doesn't describe it particularly accurately. Although that is a massive part of it, the demand avoidance is actually a sympton of the 'anxiety-driven need to be in control'. That's why ds can't wait for anything, even birthdays or christmas because he is not in control of it, he feels anxious. Birthdays and christmas aren't a 'demand' but anticipation of them is a real problem for ds. He is already going on about his birthday, repeatedly asking how long it is then grunting and groaning at the answer, and it's not until the end of april! He can't control time biscuit- that's the sort of thing that makes him feel anxious and it's very difficult to help him with that.

HotheadPaisan Wed 06-Feb-13 11:58:35

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popgoestheweezel Wed 06-Feb-13 11:26:48

PDA Workshop was run by autism west midlands in birmingham so not really our area. It was a run of strange co-incidences because I only came across it by chance and fortunately we happened to be working in the area that day so totally convenient. When I checked the address it was bizarrely just yards from my grandparents' old house- weird!
School would be happy to refer us to ENC and head initially said they would fund out of their own budget. When I said that it was £2600, he looked rather taken aback and, understandably, said he'd have to think about that kind of money. The way dh and I are feeling though is that we might just pay for it ourselves. If it is the route to the help ds and we need then it will be worth every penny imo.
ATM it feels like the NHS is just going be more of these 'talking shop' style meetings where nothing is ever decided, we have already put up with two years of this sort of thing, I can't take anymore of it.
After the workshop last night, I feel even more strongly that ds is 'pure' PDA without anything else (other than a few sensory issues) going on, no real ASD of any kind. However, maybe we need ASD in the diagnosis in order to access resources?? Or does it muddy the waters? I think ENC might have the answers to those questions.

HotheadPaisan Wed 06-Feb-13 10:50:10

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popgoestheweezel Wed 06-Feb-13 10:40:35

dh and I attended a PDA workshop last night and it's confirmed our opinion that ds is a definite case of PDA. In fact, it seemed that ds was one of the more severely affected children and one of the youngest of the group too. That has silenced the silly little voice at the back of my mind saying 'maybe you really are just rubbish parents... maybe you are just imagining it'. It actually made me realise how well we are coping with a very, very challenging set of circumstances.
So, I think we really, really need to get a diagnosis now. As well as being a very useful tool for getting him the right support, I think it will help dh and I to feel 'validated' in our approach.
The question is, do we stick to the NHS route (already been on this track for two years, will take longer and potentially may never get diagnosis because they won't recognise PDA) or go privately Daphne Keen (I think fees somewhere around £1000??) or to ENC, fees £2600, but is the place to get advice from the real experts... Any recommendations?

Cornycabernet Sun 03-Feb-13 18:53:52

thanks walter
actually getting him there in the first place would be the biggest challenge I think!

Walter4 Sun 03-Feb-13 17:40:54

Hi corn, the assessment is about 6 hours. I wouldn't worry about the child engaging, they deal with PDA all the time, I thought mine would have a ball and look totally normal to them! I was wrong, they saw it all, even though he had such a good time he drove us crazy about going back the next day!

notapizzaeater Sun 03-Feb-13 17:20:22

My ds is query PDA - dad and I convinced. We have a 25 hr statement and waiting or CAMHs diagnosis now (been waiting 14 months for assessment) but they warned us before putting us on the list that Calderdale do not recognise PDA ......... How's that work then ? I queried if someone had breast cancer but they didn't recognise that what would happen ....

popgoestheweezel Fri 01-Feb-13 22:57:23

devient- interesting that you say they notice loads. I guess we've got so used to the average person saying "he's absolutely fine' when we're noticing loads of 'stuff' that we think we really are the only ones who can see what's actually going on.

popgoestheweezel Fri 01-Feb-13 22:54:13

Good news- we have heard today that the ed psych is referring us to CAMHS and the autism reference group, which I think is a multi discp panel for trickier cases.

Inaflap Thu 31-Jan-13 15:03:48

Thank you. I'm both parent and teacher. Have googled and can see links with several students but don't know if I'm imagining it or not. One is a very passive girl who behaves like a jelly most of the time nd just does not complete work well yet socialises and is good with her friends. We put in place something for her which would make life easier for her but she just won't use it in case it marks her out as different. Her anxiety levels are high yet with friends, fine. She has one friend whom she relies on constantly and seems joined at the hip. She sulks if they are separated. However, we don't see any 'adverse behaviour' as such. I have another student who is manipulating by being 'forgetful' or too 'tired'. Again huge anxiet levels but when told off bursts into noisy sobbing. They are both secondary age. I have another with aspergers as a diagnosis but very very manipulative. Can lie for england and I know she is awful at home. Home support is not good. She is very very bright but doesn't come across as tradtionally aspie. The diagnosis is recent and I am surprised that PDA was not mentioned but again how much is down to a poisnous home situation I don't know. Thank you for the links. Good old mumsnet.

bigTillyMint Thu 31-Jan-13 13:11:22

Am going to suggest we go for a diagnosis with one of ours - I wonder if I'll get anywhere!

devientenigma Thu 31-Jan-13 11:36:41

It was a joint suggestion, with me, GP and cardiologist. DS doesn't just have PDA, has a whole host of medical, neurological and physical disabilities, from birth.

Health side is working with us. It's education and therapies who are our downfall. Have let him down for almost 12 year. In turn making it an ongoing battle. There has been a lot of back stabbing and buck passing. At the end of the day DS is much too difficult to work with and only a few have been honest enough to say it. As for the paed suggesting, we have had 3 arguing over who should take him on!

As for the borough, you will just have to guess lol grin

bigTillyMint Thu 31-Jan-13 11:14:15

devientenigma, did you have to suggest and push for that or did the paed come up with it him/herself?

Wonder what borough you're in too!

HotheadPaisan Thu 31-Jan-13 10:41:07

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devientenigma Thu 31-Jan-13 10:00:56

Hi big, ours is via the NHS.

Apparently he is the only one in our borough hmm

pop it's unbelievable what they notice, I was amazed at what they saw, some of it, I didn't blush shock

bigTillyMint Thu 31-Jan-13 07:10:07

Pop, thanks for that link - I work with children with severe behavioural difficulties and think that one or two may fit that criteria. However, I have never seen a diagnosis of PDA for any child in 25+ years - does anybody get children diagnosed by an NHS paediatrician/social communications clinic or are they all private diagnoses?

popgoestheweezel Wed 30-Jan-13 23:29:03

Inaflap, I can post some links tomorrow but in the meantime google the PDA contact forum- there are education and handling guidelines on there. Are you a parent or a teacher?

popgoestheweezel Wed 30-Jan-13 23:27:33

The 'trouble' is with ds that he is inclined to be remarkably cooperative in novel situations and has learnt to pretty much stay under the radar at school. So, despite us seeing huge, glaring, classic PDA behaviours at home I worry that they wouldnt show up in an assessment. I know it's common for children with PDA to do this but it really messes with your head and sometimes dh and I think we must be imagining things. It does come out in other places but he is a highly skilled manipulator so lots of people don't realise- it took us until he was almost 5 to work out what was going on ourselves.
I guess the enc people are the total experts in their field though and will have dealt with children like ds before, I suppose they have ways of getting them to display behaviours.

Inaflap Wed 30-Jan-13 18:42:29


I think I have a kid with undiagnosed PDA at school. Can you point me in the right direction of strategies because nothing we are doing is working and unfortunately the home situation is not good.

devientenigma Wed 30-Jan-13 09:14:02

hi, our assessment was supposed to be 5 hours and I'm sure it cost the NHS £3500. From what I picked up in our assessment they were looking at his anxiety levels, the level and need for control, how demanding he was and ways he used to avoid demands. They also picked up on a lot more than that and after 2 hours they had seen enough. HTH

popgoestheweezel Tue 29-Jan-13 23:45:20

Assessment apparently is four hours and play based, I guess the degree to which the child engages is the sort of stuff that they're looking to assess.

Cornycremegg Tue 29-Jan-13 20:48:02

how long does the assessment at ENC take and how much does the child need to engage?

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