Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on SN.
another S&L question(38 Posts)
Is it normal for a child to substitute something completely random in place of a word they can't remember?
I said to DD2, "You've got a big curl in your hair." when she'd got out of bed. She asked to feel it, then said "Is it 'cuplax'? then shook her head and said 'cutlox....you know that thing where DD3 gets really big hair."
She was thinking of bed-head.
I, of course, don't know what's normal for a 5 year old.
I know the thread has moved on a bit, but my DS also does this occasionally. He's 5 too. He started quite recently and never did it before. I take it as a desire to fill in a gap when he can't find the right word, so in that sense positive.
I keep all my sn related books by my bed. I was looking at our room yesterday and laughing at the thought of just how wierd my bedtime reading is......it is also making it rather difficult to move on my side!
There's a copy by my bed.
Not exactly the most seductive sight for my dh but still.....
Thank you handywoman, for expressing much more clearly than I was able to, what I am searching for.
That catalogue is certainly a recipe for child neglect
moondog lovely catalog, thank you.
Ds says thank you too, because he has been allowed to do a puzzle for
an hour 20 mins while I browse.
"Lougle, a person with behavioural training would never have done that. He/she would have taken your child's interest in the toy as a way in and worked from there. Without harnessing the child's interests, you are lost."
We have a private SALT on board who 4 years ago never failed to amaze me in her talents for following my 4 year old severely language-impaired dd2's interest, going off with dd2 on her little tangents and working, working, working with her all the time to move her language on at every opportunity. She kept dd2 engaged and on-task 100% week in and week out for 9 months. People this talented are not that easy to find.....
Before the speech and language therapy, I stressed so much wondering ?is my dd2's language delayed or disordered? I only stopped stressing about this when our amazing SALT came on board (I found her by chance, she lives near me) and she listened and saw what we saw and showed us a way forward and embraced the uncertainty with me. I would sometimes ask 'why does dd2 do that?' and the SALT might sometimes say "i'm not sure" and that would be OK, it's more about having somebody to lean on and keep you signposted. Looking for a label is what parents do when they are looking for 'what to do next'.
I am back to stressing about labels again as sit it out on the long-winded and incredibly tedious pathway to ASD assessment. If I clap eyes on another questionnaire I will explode with rage!!! It is so stressful being in the dark. Once again it is not the label I am just waiting for, more a person who can see what I see, whose knowledge I can draw on, to embrace the uncertainty and walk with me on the onward road...........
I think the search for a label is a many-layered process for parents. Honkhonkhonk for us all!
Oh and thanks for the link, Moondog, that catalogue looks excellent.
argh same hhappened not stakeholders! I think it shows resilience to keep trying that hard to say what they want to say.
exactly and yes I know she does know about triangles as maths stuff is generally a strong point. the stakeholders last time with the word giraffe she knew it but couldn't find the word as it isn't one she needs to use every day.
It's that link between the label and the concept, isn't it. Do you think she knows what a triangle 'is'? In other words, does she know that all shapes with 3 sides are the same shape that we call a triangle? DD1 new her shapes, numbers to 10 and colours (including some secondary and tertiary colours) quite early. However, knowing them and knowing what they are called are sometimes different things.
lougl e I don' t know what it meaning as you know,my dd 1 has similar stuff going on to your dd 1 and she describes or substitutes words or acts things out when she can.t find the word.
last week during her psych assessments she was looking through a book and naming the pictures in it as part of the Bacs test. she got to a triangle and said er, a heart? to which the . psych said no but it is a shape. dd looked like she was really trying and said, sand castle? I can' t remember. the psych said have a think to which dd shrugged and said no,can.t remember we' 'll call it a heart!
Exciting - I love catalogues! I'll give them a call.
I genuinely do want to help DD2. I'm not just after a label. I worry though that she's meant to be learning at school, and they aren't picking up that she doesn't always understand.
The example of last week, when she came home and said 'Mum we have two guns in our bodies!' After a few careful questions, I established that the teacher had been talking to them about 'lungs'. Unfortunately, DD2's literal thinking linked with the fact that she misheard the teacher, led to her thinking that she had two physical guns in her body to help her breathe!
Glad to hear I have not offended.
I try to hold back on the rage I feel at the utter failure of the SEN industry at large because it will, at least on here, only make posters feel more anxious but if I really let rip I would never stop.
I feel personally betrayed on so many levels but we shall put that to one side.
Lougle, a person with behavioural training would never have done that. He/she would have taken your child's interest in the toy as a way in and worked from there. Without harnessing the child's interests, you are lost.
One of the (many) issues is the tedious bureaucracy and admin, surrounding any efforts to see a professional. By the time you have filled in the forms, gone through the case history and so on, you have used up a huge chunk of time and energy.
Unfair as it is, you are often better off helping yourself, which is where MN is so valuable.
I'd like to take this opportunity to big up the wonderful company Taskmaster whose catalogue is a treasure trove of valuable resources and one of my favourites. Get onto them and ask for a copy. There are so many fantastic resources out there.
interesting....perhaps she has 'small girl in a forest eating porridge' syndrome Right...off to find the book that deals specifically with that.
Could lax=locks, like goldilocks but in this case cup-locks, even more sensible if they have a "cup" of something at bedtime, but I think that's probably just me wishing to be a super-language-interpreter extraordinaire!
"utterly patronising smug caring carrot"
you don't sound like one on here. I don't mind caring carrots as long as they are conscientious and effective.
I'll never forget a SALT session with DD1 where the SALT was trying to get some joint attention. She was saying 'look at this book with me DD1.' DD1 was saying 'loook - up there...' and desperately motioning to a toy on a high shelf. Silly SALT didn't seem to join the dots. She wanted to 'share' a book. DD1 wanted to 'share' a toy. Surely the same session could have been achieved using the toy instead of the book. I eventually suggested that they did one thing DD1 wanted followed by one thing the SALT wanted.
On one level I agree regarding the "search for a label" and I have a rigorously ring fenced child with no dx but unarguabley severely disordered language. But as I recieve extraordinarily unfocused "advice" from professionals and lay persons alike, I find at least a rudimentary understanding of their take on conditions, cause, therapy, outcome is necessary. I both laugh and cry in turn at the extraordinary interpretation of behaviour presented as fact.
From a Salt point of view there are lots of resources on line, that may help or at least help you undertand her difficulties. The terminology helps you find things.
I didn't find you dismissive moondog. Your experience is entirely pertinent and I personally find your posts great.
Well, the world of ABA is full of professionals who started out as parents of kids with SEN and found the provision on offer a total joke.
As Gandhi said, sometimes you have to be the change you want to see in the world.
At the risk of sounding like an utterly patronising smug caring carrot, my own child's difficulties have turned me into a much better person in my work. Every child I work with is, in many ways, my child.
Perhaps I should train as a SALT - I'd be able to sort DD2 and bring some Moondog sanity to the South
Yes, I realize that I am in a unique position to sift through what is on offer and accept/reject (90% I reject). it isn't at all the same for a parent who does not work in this field and I recognise that.
As you say quite rightly
'we seek 'labels' simply because (it should be) label=recognition of an area that needs support=techniques which address need=improvement in child.'
Yes, of course! And in a same world, that would be the case.
But such is the insanity of the huge SEN industry that ultimately appears to seek little more than its continued existence, that this os much harder thasn it seems.
And all due respect to paedaitricians but language and learning issues are not their forte.
I suppose, Moondog, that as a parent without professional training in the area of difficulty, we seek 'labels' simply because (it should be) label=recognition of an area that needs support=techniques which address need=improvement in child.
At the moment, I'm in a no-man's-land of teacher saying she's fine, paed saying that there's something wrong, but she may prove sub-diagnostic in each area that is not quite right, although overall there is a combined issue, etc.
I have no idea how you fix this sort of thing, and nobody to tell me. I'm also scared that if I wade in and try and fix some bits, then the rest won't be recognised and I'll have failed her when she crashes.
You're both right...I suppose I'm concerned that if I try and address it before it's even been recognised, then I could be doing things incorrectly and I'll be only trying to address a small part of the bigger picture.
Perhaps I just need to be more patient. I don't care what label could be attributed, but I'd like to know why she is doing those things. Although that in itself is confusing, because often the labels children get relate to their presentation and little is known about the 'cause'
I realise I used the wrong terminology, too - I knew what I was trying to get at, just got it muddled up. 'Odd' is so much more useful as a term
And I don't mean to sound dismissive of your very helpful and informed contributions either Zzzz.
It is just that obsessive discussion of what label to use is endemic in the 'helping' professions and it does nothing ultimately to help families and children.
I remember a psych once triumphanlty announcing to me that she was going to diagnose a child with PDA. I asked her how this would be of practical help to this family and she looked absolutely stunned.
I can't help but think what is the purpose of obsessing over labels (and even the so called experts can't agree-what I call one thing might be considered differently by a colleague) because these things are not black and white like measles or chicken pox.
What is far more helpful is to define the key issues causing concern in clear jargon free language and then devise an intervention that is described in clear jargon free language and designed to be able to measure progress.
As a parent of a child with communication issues I would be very angry indeed and utterly reject any effort by any professional to label her issues. (As an aside, I don't let anyone near her-I don't trust anyone enough apart from her teaching staff and the handpicked few that I choose to wrok with.)
That's exactly the wooly use of terminology that makes things difficult. Yes you are correct, but in lots of texts this is more applicable
As a one off it's fine as part of a picture it might help focus therapy I guess.
I think you need to focus on helping the issues as you see them. Don't wait for permission/dx to address the problem.
Phonologically it isn't an odd set of phonemes to combine
(think of words like Complan, complex) but semantically it is curious because there is no such word, or more precised no arrangement of phonemes of this sort to convey a recognised meaning.
My advice would be to worry less about spurious labels which will end up being a 'How many angels can dance on a pinhead' sort of discussion and more on how to address such issues.
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