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claw2 Thu 10-Jan-13 11:55:39

Room full of people this time, about 10.

Basically, they are offering home tuition now, 5 hours, tutor available immediately. But ds would have to stay on roll at this school.

CAMHS are saying if i home ed, seen as ds doesnt have anxiety/self harm when not attending school. They dont see what they can offer. They would make referral to medical needs for home tuition, if i want them to, then stay involved.

SW is saying ss will be involved long term, passed to another team (she would tell me which team later) to ensure that all of ds's needs are met.

Meeting was TAC, is that the same as CIN?

zzzzz Sat 12-Jan-13 01:15:33

I think the whole set up is barmy, this whole blurring between medical and educational services is not in the best interests of the children at all IMO. Add a dose of postcode lottery and general heel dragging and you have utter rubbish provision.
I don't see SALT but probably could if I pushed, but I will probably ask for assessment in a few months time because ds is doing well and I would like some input on what to do to stretch him farther.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Sat 12-Jan-13 11:04:16

I agree that you should wait to see what the SW has written. Even is she has gone with the Mum is barking approach it is a non-medical opinion that is over-ridden by medically authorised absence.

DS is known to CAMHS and so does not require an assessment carried out by the consultant pysch but medical authorisation has to come from them rather than more junior staff. This is good - had you not got the GP to re-refer DS last summer you would have no current consultant to provide authorisation and would have to pay privately or wait months to get authorisation.

Medically authorised absence is proof that DS's needs are genuine. This 'proof' becomes stronger over time by the fact of authorised absence. Just like the 'proof' that you were the problem was given credence by the absence of medical authorisation.

Tutors are far more likely ime to accept that a child can't cope with mainstream/needs specialist placement. Also, the senco from the school that DS1 was to attend phoned me yesterday to check how things are and commented that she and the head thought his statement was rubbish, that it did not describe all of his needs etc. I am willing to bet that she would not be saying that if he did not have the official stamp.

claw2 Sat 12-Jan-13 13:16:14

zzz thanks for support smile

Keep, I have found that once something is written, people dont take the time to read the overwhelming evidence that its inaccurate.

So it will transpire, CAMHS saying ds has overwhelming school anxiety, which no one can deny. BUT mum is the cause of it and i will be back to square one in no time.

claw2 Sat 12-Jan-13 13:22:59

That is what school/LA are trying to prove now. They have moved on from denying that ds suffers with anxiety and self harms and are going for yes we totally agree he has school anxiety, but mum is the cause of it.

She needs help from CAMHS and SW to put this right, rather than ds's unmet needs being the cause.

KeepOnKeepingOn1 Sat 12-Jan-13 14:07:25

claw everything is OK smile

Medically authorised home tuition is both an objective material fact and is written. This will become the new truth.

Nothing that was previously written (in the Dark Ages before the New Truth) is relevant. Nobody in the public sector has the time to read the backstory. Think year zero. Where are we at now? Often asked by a new team that DS has been referred to. 'OK this is our case now' and is seen in a different context. It's OK to roll with it. Can it really do more harm to your ultimate goal?

You cannot cause school anxiety. The other side tried to shift the focus from DS to you. The focus is now being returned to DS. Fade away...

claw2 Sat 12-Jan-13 16:50:43

True Keep, thanks, youre right, i dont have to explain myself anymore. Thats a hard habit to break after 2 and half years of it, i need to take a chill pill and relax smile

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 12-Jan-13 18:26:29

What Keep said. The past happened and will no doubt still haunt you, but your frustrations are going to be that the past is denied and implied to be in your head, rather than continuous referals to it from now on.

mariammama Sat 12-Jan-13 21:48:29

"School felt the anxiety was all my fault, because i kept fighting, whilst I felt it was all theirs, because they knew so little about educating a dc with ASD". Succinct, reasonably accurate, sound even-handed, but isn't wink.

mariammama Sat 12-Jan-13 22:00:26

Love 'New Truth'. So true. DS firstly 'didn't have' the behavioural difficulties that they'd flagged up, then he didnt have ADHD, then he 'didn't have' asd, then 'doesn't show' anxiety, then 'didn't need much' at SA+, didnt need SLT/OT/EP, then didnt need statutory assessment (twice), then didn't need a statement. Then he didn't need quantified and specified provision. But their previous reactions to all those things are lost in the Dark Ages; the 'New Truth' has been understood for millenia and everything was in his best interests hmm

claw2 Sun 13-Jan-13 04:35:41

Maria, your experience is exactly the same as mine.

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