What if the paed doesn't see what we are seeing? We will still be left with the same child, who still has all the issues we see.
Today, she had a major meltdown. She couldn't find her socks at Nanny and Grandad's. She wouldn't wear her shoes because she had no socks. She didn't want to leave with bare feet. We didn't have her socks - they may have gone home with her cousin. She was hysterical and her solution was for DH to drive home, collect some socks and drive back again, so that we could all drive home.
Then, she was incensed because DDs 1&3 were singing. They wouldn't stop, so she was screaming 'SILENCE, SILENCE, SILENCE, SILENCE!!!!!!'
I'm not sure. He said that if we just wanted an ASD DX then he could refer (bear in mind we've seen him for 4 years, so we have 'cards on the table talks), but I Sayyid I didn't want that, I want to identify what, if anything, is causing her issues.
Trouble is, she's so passive that she's not going to cause trouble.
My dd 13 ASD doesn't have theory of mind but she passed the tests for it as they were stories and then questions and she knows what you're supposed to do but doesn't do it in real life.
Lougle, My ds 5 has a phonological speech disorder and some of the things he says sounds like your dd (eg says "I've eaten my dinner all") and he has word finding difficulties along with hypermobility and social anxiety that presents like selective mutism. He is under assessment with CDC and they asked me if I thought it was ASD as no one can decide. The thing is I don't know either and I'm not an expert. My dd has meltdown after meltdown where as my ds is placid and over compliant. This worries me that whatever is going on (and I know there is a something going on) will get missed.
Well done. The ASD meeting might come up with a SLT appotinemtn anyway. if not, self-refer if you can, or cheekily push the school to do so even if they aren't sure (I printed off and completed the forms for them so the senco only had to print off an IEP and sign the box )
It's really interesting that of all the issues I wrote down (10 pages) I dedicated only 2 paragraphs to 'physical issues' and simply noted that she is physically cautious, yet that was the thing he noticed most.
HiLougle ds1 is extremely cautious as well and passive. Although he has a Dx of ASD and probably has SPD as well, which we have only discovered recently.
Not trying to compare here but just thought that I should mention that he has been having regular OT weekly and is doing AIT and light therapy and has made really good progress with it. So maybe the Paed is really onto something with noticing the cautiousness and the OT referral. I would be really encouraged by it.
I agree handy, Dd3 did one involving balls under coloured cups (like the magicians trick), only she watched where the ball was put while I was out of the room. She was totally convinced that I would know where the ball and been moved to
Fairly conclusive I would say.
Even the SALT was surprised at how clear cut it was as she had originally been one of the people who didnt think Dd3 had ASD!!
I improvised but I used two teddies and two trainers, with a playing card.
I told her that Lorna (her teddy) had a lovely card, and she didn't want anyone to touch it, so she put it in her trainer. Then she went out to play. But giraffe is very naughty, and he stole the card, then moved it to his trainer. Lorna came back to get her playing card. Where would she look?
DD2 immediately said 'her trainer'. When I said why? she said 'because she putted it there.'
Ok I found it here. please fast forward through the VERY basic A-Level psychology article to the Strange Stories. We did the Sarah and Tom picnic story which dd2 was clueless about. Also the relationship with these tests (which have mainly been tested on subjects with a lower verbal IQ) seems not completely clear cut for those with higher verbal IQ.
Ah, but Lorna is probably real and has a mind of her own (albeit one which works exactly the same as dd2's ). Lorna knows you can't believe anything involving giraffe, who is just a toy and can't really do stuff .