The title says it all. DD (3.11) finished her assessment yesterday. They brought DH and me in afterwards and said that it is ASD. Moderate, and with learning difficulties. This was a more pessimistic outcome than I had been hoping for, but on the other hand, I am glad that the period of "wait & see" is over. In a strange way it is good to know have a degree of clarity. I do feel some sorrow; not for me, but for my beautiful DD - I wish she could have had the life that most other children have. I just wanted to thank you all; the MN SN board is fantastic. I first found you all when I was using Dr Google to try and understand the first report from the paed. I cannot explain how much I have appreciated everything I have read on here. It has helped me so much.
It is a strange feeling when you are told despite knowing something is up inside you.
But now think on as you have this dx nice and early and so can now go and tell that daft school what you expect them to do now and get them some training in ASD!
DS is moderate with specific learning diffs and I can tell you yes he has issues but he is 7 and out roller skating, has made friends, its not easy but he is enjoying his life and I am sure so will your DD x
Marchduck I am so sorry. We all know that feeling; having it in black and white is so bloody final and irreversible. I just wanted to reverse a day and just have even one more day of deluded ignorance (and denial). It sucks.
But... it sounds so trite but honestly things will get better. You'll begin a process of accepting it (even if not necessarily ever actually getting over it, iyswim). Your lovely dd is the same person she was yesterday - she now just has a recognised term to describe some of her difficulties.
Just take time to let yourself feel as crap as you want to, what you had today is one of the last things you want to believe about your child, and then I'm sure you will, like all of us, get on with making sure she has the best support possible so she can exceed your highest expectations.
When you're ready, come back and we can all bleat on about pass on our knowledge about ways to help her
I am sorry march. We have received DD's asd dx a year ago (she was also 3.11) back then.
I promise - it will get better. I also hit a low after dx. We were told after the ados that they cannot really comment on LD as DD was not even 4 yet and the outcome with asd is very difficult to predict.
DD had her dx a couple of months ago. I felt incredibly numb and sad after the initial shock had worn off and it sank in. She is a wonderful little girl though as I am sure your DD is. The positive thing is that now you have an official dx you can move forward into how to improve things for her. I've seen a big improvement in DD since we stopped 'assessing' and started interventions.
I'm here if you ever need a chat. I think you've posted on my threads before.
marchduck I echo what indigo has said. As you know good quality early intervention is key and can make masses of difference.
we have only started seeing positive improvements in DS1 but it has been a very rough ride and it has not been just one thing that made a difference. so ask away when you are ready, you never know you might find something useful.
another quick thing you have to work as a family.i have been through how?why?and ifs .love my husband but also hate him at the moment as he tends to look THICK and WEAK at times ,but i know its his way of coping and I have to humour him.All the ladies here are superb .things will get easier!