Here some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on SN.
A bit closer to a diagnosis, but it aint a good one(46 Posts)
What about the speech therapy route? Doesn't tread on Camhs toes, and depending who you see, sometimes they're autism experts. Also ask school if he can go on educational psychologist waiting list (will take forever but worth trying)
What made him go to the doctor about it Leonie? How easy was the process for his assessment?
I think my Dd1 has self diagnosed, whether she will ever get a formal Dx I dont know.
We went round in circles with Dd1 from age 4-9 and then I gave up, having been told it was my parenting that was causing the problem
With Dd3 we went round in circles from 5.5 until 9 when the DISCO was done and ASD was diagnosed.
Dd3 is not as mercenary[sp] as Dd3, she has alot more sensory and co ordination issues so I suppose ultimately she was easier to diagnose.
The thing which helped us most was the diary TBH, it finally made proffs sit up and listen, when they realised what we were trying to manage on a daily basis.
We were also lucky that there was an ASD friendly MH nurse at CAMHS who referred us on to a psychiatrist who had been trained to do the DISCO.
Sorry hidden not really much help. Would Nottingham be accessible for you?
Google the Lorna Wing Centre.
The GP only ever refers us to CAMHS. This is what I mean, we keep going round in circles.
What age was your husband diagnosed Leonie? I have a bad feeling that this is going to drag on for years and then when he's a lot older it'll all come out and I'll be sitting there rocking in the corner jibbering "I did try, I did try" This is so draining for us and, in the meantime, ds isn't receiving any help. What will happen to him if he doesn't receive the proper help? We support and supervise him as best we can, but what is the prognosis in the medium term if he does have ASD?
And, who are all these people who do receive a proper assessment? Who the heck do you have to sleep with or bribe in order for this to be done? I really don't know what to say to these people for them to take us seriously.
God hidden he really does sound like my Dd1.
Dd1 is seriously opinionated and truely believes that her view is the only one that matters.
In fact due to poor Theory of mind, she doesnt even realise that other people have an opinion
Okay, have looked and she's based in Newcastle, that's very good. Will see about being referred, but doubt they will do it whilst I'm seeing this CAMHS bloke
I'm going to ring the school nurse tomorrow to ask why I'm seeing a psychologist instead of a paed. Perhaps the doctor attached to the school nursing service could refer me?
I really do feel like I'm caught up in some Kafkaesque nightmare here. I'm really feeling on shaky ground and that someone/thing is delibrately thwarting my attempts to get help and I don't know why
Thank you to everyone who's listening to me and suggesting ways of accessing help. I really do appreciate it.
<sigh> I'm no further forward am I?
God, this just keeps going on and on round in circles.
Why the hell can't I get to see a paed?
I will take a look at that link mariammma
The Camhs guy is right about the narcissism being a big problem. He's probably right about there being some attachment disorder / hangup stuff. But being right about the absence of ASD in a smart, complicated dc really does takes an expert. And it matters cos narcissistic traits alone are likely to be managed differently than when they occur ASD or PDA, or whatever else.
How can I get referred to a proper paediatrician though? We live in the NE and don't have access to specialist centres.
I'm scared this guy is leading us down the wrong path now
And btw, on your other thread you're being incredibly harsh on your naive, abused, 14-years-younger, post-natally depressed self. Hope you've snapped out of it now. You've had a guilty twinge, acknowledged it, felt sorry and made reparation, so it's time to let it go. Otherwise it'll just focus you on all the wrong things and preventably block you from actually loving and helping your ds.
Which really would be a good reason for guilt!
Took my massive post off chat cos it was a bit too dogmatic for non-SN parents to read
This guy is talking bollocks. Narcissistic traits are not a diagnosis. Personality disorder cannot be diagnosed till 18 at the very earliest, and is a dodgy label before 25 (as said above). This is because so many people mature and improve well into early adulthood. Plus it's an incredibly stigmatising diagnosis and there is sod-all NHS help available for PD patients unless they try suicide so many times that the admissions start costing £50-£100,000/ year.
And one year of neglect is highly unlikely to cause such severe damage. Your ds was well-parented (by you, and latterly also your dh) for every year of his life bar the first. Adoptions of Romanian orphanage children have shown fairly conclusively that early deprivation does cause harm, but that most of this is reversible when the environment improves. Your evil ex messing with ds's head during contact is not sufficient to cause permanent severe neurological damage.
Read this by a mum whose 4 adopted dc have asd. She was fobbed off for years with talk of attachment disorder and early deprivation.
Now, I haven't said the camhs dr is wrong, but to be certain that a dc hasnt also got an asd when they are demonstrating clear evidence of lifelong poor social communication, lack of social imagination, and rubbish social interaction is a bit
foolhardy brave. You can get a second NHS opinion from great ormond street, the Elizabeth Newson centre, guys/St Thomas, the Maudsley....
I've always said that he'll either end up in prison or running the country
He's interested in politics, history and sociology and will give us potted history lessons at home. He has strong views on what other countries are doing wrong or have done wrong in the past
He doesn't come across like he has autism though. He can make good eye contact, he's sociable, he doesn't have any obsessions, his verbal communication is very good - he does talk too loudly though - he seems to need people and is very attention seeking. I thought autism involved a decreased need for contact with others and poor communication abilities. He doesn't treat people as though they have feelings and he is often blunt to the point of being offensive. He's dismissive, egotistical and rude. He can just about hold a conversation and let others speak, but will but in and talk over them if he considers their point to be less important than his own. His friend described him as a 'control freak' and the teachers also criticise him for not accepting others points of view. He easily hurts people's feelings and this is why most of his class dislike him.
He rubs people up the wrong way and is then offended and shocked when they kick back against this treatment - his father does this. He blames others for his mistakes, lies, won't ever accept that he's in the wrong, sees things in black and white and never compromises. He expects everyone else to defer to him and describes himself as 'being awesome'. His self esteem has been assessed and it's very high - he's not just bluffing it or covering up a deep insecurity - he honestly believes that he's wonderful. He puts other people down a lot - generally based on their perceived lack of intelligence, occasionally their look or social class. He's arrogant and boorish. The type of unpleasant businessman type that you'd hate to work for
He does have a certain charm and is good looking, but he can't keep the act up for long and when people find out what he's like, they avoid him.
He does have tics and poor physical coordination. He can't concentrate or focus very well - his private assessment came back that he has adhd, but nobody in the LA seems to agree with this.
Join the discussion
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.Register now
Already registered with Mumsnet? Log in to leave your comment or alternatively, sign in with Facebook or Google.
Please login first.