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StarlightMcKenzie Wed 21-Nov-12 20:11:51

I'm sitting on a wall outside a pub. I'm overlooking the Thames. I'm supposed to go in and welcome people, as the class rep for dd (NT) . I'm completely broke, so have had a couple of drinks already (vodka with infused rhubarb and custards homemade christmas pressure).

DH has put an offer in for a house, and upped it without asking me. It's a nice house, in an outstanding school catchment for dd and ds2. The offer he has made is ridiculous, more tan twice the price of the bigger house we left a year ago.

Wtf do I think I am doing?

I grew up in East London.

I've seen a job. I'm qualified for it. It is with our LA and about using data in Education.

I've put lipstick on.

Why do I feel the only true friends are you lot. Most of whom I have never met!?

coff33pot Thu 22-Nov-12 19:21:23

210,000 you can have the one next to meeeeeeeeeeeee prob less now and they would defo take a undercut. It has a garage and an extension (first floor) to the back and a front and back garden and 3 beds and central heating, DG and then there is meeeeeeeeeee Do you want me to pay YOU is that it LOL grin

mymatemax Thu 22-Nov-12 17:55:57

Starlight, do not believe the estate agent! Go with the offer you want to put in & dont be influenced.

Can you get ds to measure up for a loft conversion smile
Hope you enjoyed your evening, a few drinks & a night out can work wonders for sanity1

zzzzz Thu 22-Nov-12 15:15:47

"quick glance today shows that, no, it IS a bit weird"

The joy of mn sn summed up in a sentence. grin

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 22-Nov-12 14:25:22

blueshark. Perhaps there is potential for an extention/loft conversion, but we'll have NO money for at least 10 years to do that.

Probably won't get it though as the estate agent is telling us that they have received offers of over £50k more, but I'm not sure I believe that. Estate agent trying to instigate a bidding war by telling us that he has arranged for everyone to put their 'last and final offer' in by Friday as well as evidence of finances.

Might tell dh in that case to put in a lower offer.

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 22-Nov-12 14:16:12

I do miss my friends from my life before the DS battle. Some of them would have stuck with us as their children grew up alongside DS and they weren't afraid of his difference. But 2 moves and now being in the totally opposite side of London means that they are only really facebook friends atm.

The mums were really lovely actually. Don't get to see most of them at the school gates as I'm in Nanny-Land (although the nannies are also nice).

I guess you don't give a toss about your own life though when you are wading through the thick mud.

It's still a bit muddy though. DS's school were using a tape measure as a reward for 10 tokens. They decided that they needed to widen his interest in tape measures, so now he wins tokens for a tool drawer with other measuring implements in it hmm.

I'm sure it is fine, but its the basics of behavioural intervention, that you don't mess with the reinforcers.

They also don't measure whether the number of 'time out of the classroom' or 'sensory interventions' are reducing or increasing as a result of this new 'strategy'.

Funny thing though is they say that it seems to be working! Which well it might, but not so by design.

devientenigma Thu 22-Nov-12 14:12:08

Glad you sound a bit more focused.

Apologies for not being on and seeing the beginning, especially when you've been there for me in the past blush

Hang in there x

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 22-Nov-12 14:06:52

Haven't read through the weirdness in the middle of the thread. Tried to last night but thought I must have been too drunk.

Quick glance today shows that, no, it IS a bit weird grin

StarlightMcKenzie Thu 22-Nov-12 14:04:09

Dev I'm not taking the job. LA salary wouldn't cover the childcare for 3 children with complex logistics. Perhaps one day though, or perhaps I'll apply just for the practise and to give them the opportunity to double the salary and throw in some free childcare.....

What was I thinking feeding the baby last night though? I left two whole cups of expressed milk for just 3 hours. Came home to a screaming baby (DH said he had only just started) so fed him. He then didn't wake up for 11 hours shock which was the first night he has ever slept through.

Hope he's okay.

bochead Thu 22-Nov-12 13:00:53

Don't fret Star - if it all gets too middle class you can always come to my house - deepest sarf laandan wiv a "beware of the cat" (staff's as soooo last decade sweetie) on the door and everyfing. I'll drop my "H"'s, make proper tea wot you can stand your spoon upright in and we can plan a raid on my nephews white card city models together wink

OK so the area is a wierd & overpriced, but the natives aren't actually hostile and the LA is hellbent on destroying your family so that's a bonus. All your kids are happy and you are making friends without having to look over your shoulder constantly for incoming missiles from the LA. Don't be scared to be happy or Herts will have won iykwim.

If the offer on the house is in fantasy land - then just withdraw the offer, and look around for summat else. I'm convinced that Oftstead is a total con - if a school is really awful local residents will know why, and the rest is all just a political farce.

blueShark Thu 22-Nov-12 12:15:56

btw...Happy Birthday to DS, hope he has a fantastic year ahead x

blueShark Thu 22-Nov-12 12:14:55

is there any rental potential in the house he has put an offer for? A room or convert a part to a studio?
I was in the same boat few years ago when I sent my husband to do some viewings, he didnt like any and asked the agent does he have anything better, which was nearly double than our budget. He fell in love with the house, but since he is a builder we converted 2 studios and the rent comes welcomed every month.
Go for the job, its great to get out of the house. I am also applying, had enough of therapists, therapies, school issues, nappies...need a new life.
And I hope you had a drink for me, my strict diet doesnt allow me any sad

Dev9aug Thu 22-Nov-12 11:53:09

Oh and star don't go taking on that job either, you are going to come work with us remember...grin

zzzzz Thu 22-Nov-12 11:41:01

NaHaudin that is a very sensible explanation.

Ellen I'm sorry terror obviously sent me straight to sleep!

NoHaudinMaWheest Thu 22-Nov-12 11:30:05

Isn't there some way of finding out which threads a poster has been on recently? So if someone investigated our Coff they would find out that she is a SN regular without knowing anything else about her or the SN board.

bialystockandbloom Thu 22-Nov-12 10:29:28

Glad you had a good night, Star, and happy birthday to ds! don't worry nobody noticed the drunk spelling

coff33 people did realise the bizarre party-thread wasn't by you, think the poster was called coffeedog, but last I saw she never came back anyway, it was all very odd, and then pulled. But it was strange that a few posters (not SN regulars) knew that it wasn't you, so guess some folks do read this section <waves to lurkers>

justaboutchilledout Thu 22-Nov-12 06:38:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Thu 22-Nov-12 01:13:15

Portal 2 is fantastic!

<Bites thumb at zzzzz>

ProcrastinatingPanda Thu 22-Nov-12 01:11:18

Oh rockband is great fun.

coff33pot Thu 22-Nov-12 01:06:23

its throwing it down with rain here too :/

coff33pot Thu 22-Nov-12 01:05:37

okaaaay well I missed that show thank goodness! My nursery days are over thank goodness. I suppose it was different to the norm for a days viewing in SN grin

Changing the subject I have just won Portal 2 on ebay for DD for £13 ! first time I have ever bartered and it was fun! So I did it again and just got Rock Band for the ps3 with game, guitar, and drums for £25! and why?.....................because I am a big kid at heart and I am sooo looking forward to rocking with DS on xmas day heheheee.

ProcrastinatingPanda Thu 22-Nov-12 01:05:25

I'm going to go off to bed and let you two fight it out.

zzzzz Thu 22-Nov-12 01:04:18

Oh good grief it's raining again.

zzzzz Thu 22-Nov-12 01:02:25

<artful cowering>

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Thu 22-Nov-12 01:01:35

grin <-- This happy!

zzzzz Thu 22-Nov-12 01:00:28

If it will make you happy

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