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Losing patience with DS most likely has ASD

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lottytheladybird Wed 14-Nov-12 17:12:42

DS1 most likely has ASD. He's waiting to be seen by the specialist team of paediatricians at the hospital, but has Portage & SALT.

DS1 loves doors. Most of the doors in our house are wedged open in order to prevent him from playing with them. With the ones that aren't, he must open & close them if he's going through. He'll get upset if you open/close them, or he'll just open & close them again. If I open the stair gate, he closes it and then has to open it himself. Same with closing it. If I tell him we need to go upstairs, I might be waiting at the bottom of the stairs for 10 minutes repeating the same instruction over and over. When he finally comes over to the stair gate, he then wants to play with stair gate for ages...and the whole process of going upstairs can seemingly take forever. While all of this is happening, I'm generally holding my 6 month old DS2. If I pick up DS1 to go upstairs, then usually a tantrum ensues!

Anyway, patience is running! Feeling frazzled with the demands of looking after two little ones, not to mention DS1 is unwell & teething at the moment!

Not really sure what my question is...maybe just some sympathy?

Handywoman Wed 14-Nov-12 18:38:25

I am not surprised you are losing patience, it sounds exhausting. When she was much younger my dd used to totally 'lose it' if I went up or down stairs without her. Having a baby in tow must make it especially hard. Nothing constructive to add, but have a Honk... X

troutsprout Wed 14-Nov-12 18:44:31

Oh blimey ... That sounds like a patience test indeed...
What happens if you just go through anyway? Are we talking major meltdown?
How old is he?
Does he like stories? Would he listen to a social story about doors?

Ineedalife Wed 14-Nov-12 18:44:36

Dd3 likes doors too, she will stand by the kitchen cupboard doors for ages.

Open, shut, open, shut, open, shut......

I wonder what it is that gives so much pleasure.

I would recommend trying distraction or allowing more time for getting things done.

Sorry not much help, am honking for yousmile

used2bthin Wed 14-Nov-12 18:44:38

Lots from me! DD1 was seen today by community paed and will have full assessments jan but paed said she is confident she has an ASD its just about working out where she is. So I know she can't help various behaviours but I am still really frustrated tonight by them, particularly the constant movemen and noise and slamming against me, hitting me and the baby who is 5m. it is exhausting!

lottytheladybird Wed 14-Nov-12 21:02:11

DS1 is 2 years 4 months old. He doesn't mind us going through the doors, we're just not allowed to do the opening or closing! If I stop him opening/closing doors, then he throws himself on the floor and has a tantrum. He doesn't really get stories yet, although he loves books!

used2bthin Wed 14-Nov-12 21:09:22

my dd likes them shut-she recently got out of the swimming pool to!

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