I learnt today that my sister doesn't believe there is anything wrong with DD. (warning. this contains a lot of swearing)

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

I am so fucking angry.
Stupid bloody bitch in her fucking perfect world.
I only fucking hope her perfect children don't ever run into any difficulties or turn out to have any extra needs.
Does she think I want to have a child with aspergers?
Does she think I am making it up?
How many normal teenagers does she know? And how many teenagers with fucking aspergers does she know?
And who the fuck does she think she fucking is? Some fucking expert?
What the actual fuck?

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

I am beyond pissed off.

Does she really think I am making it up?

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

Come and vent on here where it's safe. Do you think she feels having a DC in the family with SN reflects badly on her? Oops, that's not going to calm you down.

[WilsonFrickett]

Excellent swearing. Do some more.

I think the rellies not getting it is in some ways the hardest part of the whole shitbucket that is SN.

So keep going until you get it all out. May I suggest a fucksticks

[Lougle]

Taggie, if it's any, any consolation, when my DD1 was first flagged for investigation at 2.9, my sister said 'How dare they say that MY NIECE has SN? How dare they say that MY NIECE has something wrong??'

I said 'Well I'm HER MOTHER and I agree with them.'

DD1 now goes to Special School

You need to put on your teflon wetsuit.

[ohmeohmy]

Your sister I'd an ignorant fool

[ohmeohmy]

Is.

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

Stupid fucking ignorant bitch.

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

But what the fucking fuck?

Why would I claim she has aspergers if she doesn't?

[Learning70]

Families eh. I know all that type of crap has been said in my family. I am finding that hands on experience for family members helps. Sometimes it can be funny. One of my fave moments was my sister donning a fake posh voice and saying "settle down I am talking to mummy", presumably to show me how it is done as my five year old bounded towards her to take a giant lick of her face. Seeing as she was showing me the correct way, I chose not to intervene on this occasion ...

[PurplePidjin]

Because of the free goat, car and massive telly of course, Taggie - you'll be rich now from all those benefits

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

I claim nothing. Not a bean. Not even a fucking goat. DD would love a couple of goats.

Is she so fucking arrogant that she thinks she knows DD better than I do?

[PurplePidjin]

*Their

[PurplePidjin]

Goats would make awesome pets, I like your dd :o

[Iceflower]

Learning70 I've had lots of that from the mummy friends - yup, watch me, and you'll see how parenting's done!

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

Must be awful to be so stupid. Poor thing. I pity her (in a superior, smug, knowledgable way).

[ilikemysleep]

Been there, got the t-shirt. My mother in law thought ds was 'so rude' because I mollycoddled him. My father thought he throws tantrums because he is jealous of his brothers and badly brought up. They can both go boil their heads....

[frizzcat]

Ip dip dog shit f@#*ing b'astard stupid nit your sisters a twit!
Is this kind of heckling allowed?
One of my darling-sis told me she couldn't tell me about her dc's successes because of my ds ASD - in addition to telling me that I talked too much about him. This after me sending little congrats cards and pressies to her dc because of their various acheivements. The same sis that told me she couldn't afford to come and be godmother to my dd at her baptism.... But a week later posted on FB that they had just booked their 6th holiday to Florida
Que one year later I don't speak to her and just send birthday cards to her dc - and she can f-off if she thinks I'll ever lift a hand to help her ever again

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

Heckling allowed.

Stupid ignorant bitch.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

It's because she has the luxury of denial. I was in denial for a month after Dx and we went on a nice holiday, and then I came back and realised I couldn't just close my eyes and ears as it was my job, morally, legally and ethically to ensure Ds was as equipped as he could be to be as safe as he could be for as long as he coukd be, and that meant facing the music.

How in denial I was or wasn't directly impacts Ds' life chances. Not so for your sister. She can take years acclimatising if that is what she needs.

[bochead]

The polite patronising potato/caring carrot style response:-

"It takes a team of specialists to make the diagnosis sweety - all of whom studied long and hard to make that call. I was unaware you'd ever qualified as a consultant neurologist, developmental pead, clinical pysch or speech and language therapist just through reading the Daily Mail dear. Do you have the standardised clinical test evidence to show where exactly they made a significant career ending error? OR are you REALLY so stupid that you don't even know what you don't know?

Sweetheart there are lots of therapies than can signifcantly improve the long term outcome for my daughter, buy you can't fix stupid, so I'm really not sure what we are going to do with you! Please don't darken my door for the foreseeable future as your presence is not healthy for my child's well being"

My likely response

fook off to the far side of fook! insert sound of front door slamming in sis's face

[frizzcat]

Lol - but you can't fix stupid [big grin]

[frizzcat]

Ah numpty I meant -

[amistillsexy]

She can join my sisters in cuntsville.

Sister one decided I was getting waaaaayyyy too much attention from mummy and announced that although her (perfectly ordinary, very bright and capable teenage) daughter has never had so much as a sniff of bother or special need, she had, in fact, been brewing autism all these years. It's just that my wonderful sister didn't like to make a fuss about it, so hadn't mentioned it.

The other sister says wonderful things like 'I think they're just being horrible. He's beautiful,' (and we all know that beautiful children don't have autism, don't we ). She's now decided that all will be well when he grows up, and grows out of it , and has told this to my niece, who repeated it to me tonight (while a bit my tongue and tried not to take it out on th epoor gilr!).

Fucking, cunting ignorant TWATS...call themselves educated but can't even be fucking bothered to google a word and read about it on fucking Wikkipaedia.

I really feel you, OP. It's fucking SHIT.

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

I have been chuntering all night. I woke up at 4 and worried and churned it over snd over (a very bad habit). I am not happy.
Boc, i like that, the 'gosh, i never knew you were a qualified clinical psychologist and neurologist, nor present during her assessment'. And the rest.

Thanks all.