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AS still getting my head around it

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thriftychic Sat 10-Nov-12 14:53:02

ds2 (13) diagnosed last wednesday.

my mother has decided without asking us that we are all eating out for xmas dinner this year hmm and has emailed us the menu asking us for our choices at the place she has booked.

myself , dp and ds1 have chosen and i have just asked ds2 what he will have and he found it very difficult to choose , he said it was just WEIRD picking your food now to eat in December and he didnt want to go anyway . managed it in the end, but , is this to do with the AS ?

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 10-Nov-12 15:25:59

Actually I agree with him! grin

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 10-Nov-12 15:27:53

If you're going to go through with this you have to explain that the dinner isn't actually about the food it is supposed to be to see the family and you know it isn't his thing so if he does it well you'll let him do .......... during/inbetween courses/leave early/arrive late whatever and he can chose something special that will be christmassy FOR HIM for the day after.

thriftychic Sat 10-Nov-12 15:37:13

actually i agree with him too grin
in fact my mother is making me very angry at the moment !
she has also booked her wedding for the 22nd december so that should be fun too .

i just wondered if it was something to do with AS as in not being able to imagine what you would enjoy eating or something ..actually im not making sense am i confused

sweetteamum Sat 10-Nov-12 15:43:08

I also agree with him grin

how can he possibly know what he'll want to eat in 6/7 weeks time. I'm all for giving notice but not this long ;)

Don't get me started on mums angry

PolterGoose Sat 10-Nov-12 15:43:45

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DrWhoBrain Sat 10-Nov-12 16:08:53

Im actually like that myself and its only a clear cut choice for me if everything else on offer i something i dont like. Its one of the reasons i hate meals plans, i cant decide what i can stomach eating until just before i go to make even then sometimes upon making i change my mind completely.

Im not AS btw but i do have rather odd tendancies

StarlightMcKenzie Sat 10-Nov-12 16:13:45

Can you decide something completely different from him then on the day mix and match between you with what he fancies.

Not a lot for fun for you really and your DM will have to watch you moving food around your plates but it might get you through it.

Is your DM paying?

troutsprout Sat 10-Nov-12 17:24:20

Lol ...Sounds a normal reaction to me too! Everyone thinks this surely? We maybe just don't voice it. grin
Maybe the question just needs to be which of these menus sound the nicest .

coff33pot Sun 11-Nov-12 03:30:57

Another one who agrees with him smile

but then I am like that and hate being told what I am doing let alone a couple months in advance!

Fortunately my family believe that Xmas day should be in your own homes and Boxing Day is for visiting.

I am waiting to put a spanner in the works with my mil by just saying a plain NO this year to anything. For one she hasnt visited since last Xmas or discussed ds DX and for another it's DH an I only day off together every year and I am feeling selfish in not wanting to share it grin

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