I'm sitting here completely bewildered and sorry I don't mean to sound self indulgent or sorry for myself. My dd (just turned 9) has a diagnosis of Aspergers, ADHD ODD and most likely and I think most prevalent, PDA. She suffers a lot with anxiety but is aggressive and has a lot of "meltdowns" "explosions". I also homeschool her (however loosely you want to use that term at the minute!).
She seems to put objections up to everything and anything, ie getting dressed, I understand all the sensory problems this can bring but I dont believe its just those. She started this morning by getting up about 6 needing the toilet, She went back to bed with the ipod and a snack because she doesn't get out of her room until her alarm goes off (and is very rigid about this). At about 7.30 she ran into my room shouting help, help, her pyjamas had got a small hole in their bottoms. I said its ok,we can stitch it up. She wouldn't listen at all, wouldn't put anything else on
(even though she said she couldn't stay as she was) blamed her favourite "toy" and shouted at it, kept shouting HELP at hte top of her voice and crying. There was nothing I could do , its like she wants me to do something but not at the same time. Eventually I went back to my room, to which she followed me and then got into my bed, which I had been making, I was told not to make it as it was still night! She got in and the weight of our heavy duvet and throw on top seemed to calm her and we got sorted. But the whole day has been like that,. I tried to get her dressed but she objected screamed and ran off, took all her entire clothes, pants, socks everything out of he rdrawers and ending up still in her pyjamas.
She has a complete obsession with certain toys. Fijit friends mainly, monster high etc and these are not toys, they are living beings and she calls them mini friends and woe betide if anyone calls them anything else. She seems to think they can make everything better in her world of confusion. She had a new one yesterday, an early Xmas present as Xmas is a huge time of uncertainty we sometimes spread a couple of presents out. Because the hole in the pyjama incident this toy was no good and she needed the next one. I'm assuming in her mind once she got the toy no bad would happen and it did. She has since played with it fine but its in the moment that this happens. I just dont know who to deal wiht it any more. I 've spent most of the day crying (
which isn't like me) and not knowing what to do for the best. The resistance to doing what needs to be done let alone anything else and the constant obsessions and needing to have things is really taking its toll. Believe me I completely undertand (as much as anyone whose not on the spectrum can) how much her anxieties etc envelop her but am just now running out of steam. I'm sorry for the long post but I need to pour itout somewhere.
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fairychronicle · 09/11/2012 15:53
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