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Feel like giving in

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sweetteamum Tue 06-Nov-12 22:43:21

I'm exhausted. This is such a woe is me post but just humour me if you want to.

We are appealing lea's decision not to statutory assess dd, who is 11 and only spent just over a week in school, for the first term in high school.

She's extremely anxious but desperately wants to go to school. We want her to be at school as this situation is Jo good for anyone.

Anyway, long story short. Lea phoned and said there will be an early intervention referral made, to social services!!!!! Where someone may come to the house and 'encourage' dd to go to school.

They want to try everything else first before doing SA and only doing that as a last resort.

I told them I'd practically begged the school for help in the first 2 days that she was there and continued to mither for weeks. As they never put anything in place this led to her anxieties growing sad

They don't want to talk about the past and want to concentrate on what can be done now. I just said I hoped it wasn't too long after the horse had bolted.

At the end of the call I said I was still appealing and got the reply "oh, ok then" as if that call was going to change my mind.

Dh thinks I should get in touch and turn it round and say that dd needs the SA to enable her to be put in the correct school. The school and lea are very concerned that she's missed so much school and are only thinking of her education, rather than her health.

I don't know what I expect but just needed to vent a little.

I'm exhausted. Not sleeping well and always feeling sick and dizzy with worry sad

NoHaudinMaWheest Tue 06-Nov-12 23:49:24

Someone to encourage her to go to school is so much easier and cheaper than a SA.

I think that your DH is probably right but others with more experience can advise on that.

I just want to say that I understand how exhausted and worried you must be as my Ds has been out of school for two long periods for various reasons.

You will get through it eventually. Try to give yourself some time when you don't think about it (easier said than done I know).

coff33pot Wed 07-Nov-12 00:30:02

Go with the flow and stay calm. Let ss visit it would most likely be a welfare officer than ss anyway x

Let your dd know that someone is coming when you have the date so she is not taken aback by it. Tell your dd to write down everything that is making her anxious in school. THE LOT.

When they arrive have tea and cakes ready and advise them that you and dd would like nothing more than to return to school so can they sort all her concerns please by speaking to the la and liasing with the school.

support your dd by saying she is free to say with your back up what is troubling her.

if school agree that it can all be fixed say great can you please put a timetable and list the support in a letter to yourself.

keep the appeal going and if it goes to tribunal then you have a list of issues from dd and an admission from school in writing of all the support she needs.

If a hook don't agree then don't worry as obviously your dd won't be going back till they do a SA and sort it by an appeal anyway x

it's hard but play their game for your own ends wink

coff33pot Wed 07-Nov-12 00:32:10

Ahhh! Phone grrrr

If school don't agree to change anything lol

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