Hi all
My 11 year old son is a typical aspie - minecraft devotee, pedantic, great sense of word play, loves puns and jokes, has a small group of friends with whom he relates well. He is also selectively mute. We have known for ages that he 'closes down' in certain circumstances but we thought that selective mutism had to be pervasive - a child who won't talk at all in school to anyone. We have recently learned however that Sleepy1's particular difficulties can be understood as selective mutism. Do any of your kids do / have they done this stuff?
DS talks fine to other kids if they are either his friends, or total strangers. He is quieter and awkward with 'acquaintance' children (eg kids in his class who aren't his friends) but will speak with them a bit, most of the time.
He is fine at saying lines in plays etc - really loud, no issues.
He is fine at answering direct questions related to work from teachers - eg if they asked what is 6 x7 or what the answer to a particular question is.
However if he is asked anything that requires an opinion or strays away from work by a teacher (or other adult, except a very few he is confident with) he clams up completely. He can change within a second - eg will be working with the SALT on answering questions in a task with pics of pets - no problems - and she'll add in 'Do you have a pet?' and he'll look away, withdraw, no answer at all...
How has anyone tackled this (if anyone has a kid with this specific of an issue). We can see it's to do with anxiety around answers where there isn't a correct answer or where he has to give of himself socially to a stranger or offer an opinion. It can appear very rude as it is so specific - if it was more pervasive it would be more obviously unintentional or anxiety based, IYKWIM? He is 11 now and still won't relaibly greet or say goodbye to people - even family members....it seems so stuck somehow!
Any ideas?
Anyone empathise?!
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Anyone else got an aspie who also has selective mutism?
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ilikemysleep · 05/11/2012 22:54
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