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AIBU to just want to curl up and die?

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devientenigma Sun 04-Nov-12 22:57:34

Have a week from hell about to approach. DS has been out of school for over 3 year, in fact he's been in the house, no where else, unless it's the car. Since being out of school, although still registered at the LA SS I have had very little to do with 'the system'. This week there is to be 2 meetings held about DS which really I need to be there. I would like to be there to fight his cause so to speak, after all who else can. However I'm becoming more and more withdrawn and feel I won't/can't go.

DS is also supposed to be in respite for 2 nights, which I would love but if he doesn't leave the house what can one do!!

DH also has 2 appointments for his diabeties which is so out of control, he's quite ill but still working etc.

I know I'm a coward but Iv'e battled the same old bunch for years!

WizzPopWizzBang Sun 04-Nov-12 23:00:54

Oh Dev!

All sounds very stressful!

Firstly, your DH is a grown up and needs to act like one wrt his diabetes. You've a lot on your plate without having to parent him a well.

What days are your appointments?

devientenigma Sun 04-Nov-12 23:04:05

Tue, Wed and Thur for all appointments, just hate mondays anyway (always have done unless it's a school hol)

I wish he would take care of himself, the SW thinks he's undiagnosed something, he attended SS most of his life and was mute for the 1st 8 year, speech is still not clear to those who don't know him.

WizzPopWizzBang Sun 04-Nov-12 23:15:12

Do you have anyone coming with you for them? What days is respite?

devientenigma Sun 04-Nov-12 23:17:09

yeah DH lol, he said he would do them alone but the profs have already said if he does Tues alone, it's cancelled !!

respite is wed/thur

zzzzz Sun 04-Nov-12 23:53:38

Just do them dev.

I know easier said than done, but go.

Do your best.

It will be dreadful.

It probabley won't solve much, but you should go.


Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk, Honk

BeeMom Mon 05-Nov-12 00:19:46

I second zzzzz, with a whole flock full of honks.

TheLightPassenger Mon 05-Nov-12 09:28:18

sorry you're due such a rotten week dev sad.

moosemama Mon 05-Nov-12 09:38:00

Oh Dev, I really understand where you are coming from. We have nowhere near the problems you have to face and I still have times when I become so isolated I don't think I can face another meeting or 'chat' with a so-called professional.

I have been in a proper tizz just about getting back to doing the school run this morning after a couple of weeks of illness, followed by half term and not leaving the house, so I can only imagine how much worse it must be for you.

I know it's easy to say, but in the long run it is easier to just bite the bullet and go. Dh had to attend a meeting without me a couple of weeks back and I have to say I found that far more stressful, not knowing exactly who said what etc and was also incredibly frustrated that although he covered everything, he didn't do it the way I would have done, iyswim.

As usual, not a lot is going to change as a result of that meeting (all talk - no action, as per). If I had attended myself I would probably accept that and just get on with it, but because I wasn't there I am left wondering if I could have pushed more or said something else that might have made the difference. (I know in my heart there's probably nothing more I could have done/said, but the frustration and guilt is still there.)

Honking for you and sending you lots of strength. x

mariammma Mon 05-Nov-12 13:24:12

Honk. In 3 days you'll be done. And the practice nurse at the GP can hassle your dh re diabetes, that's her job and she's probably ok at it.

I need to send you my stash of happy cartoon socks. Lets me visualise the hidden bugs bunny on my (outwardly demure and trouser-clad) ankles when meetings get overwhelming.

TheLightPassenger Mon 05-Nov-12 13:39:41

yy re:nurse support, also the hospital may have diabetes specialist nurses as well who can be at end of a phone/give him extra appointments with them if needed

devientenigma Mon 05-Nov-12 17:42:09

thanks everyone, tomorrows meeting, though I should be there, I have organised it for the home tutor to support DH lol, yes call me a coward.

DH has his diabeties eye test tomorrow before the meeting so he won't see whats going on.

Light, he is under the hospital diabeties resource unit now due to that plus other complications. Apparently his name has been flagged for some time. So we'll see what happens.

Lol Maria, sounds intriguing.

Inaflap Mon 05-Nov-12 20:36:46

I know how you feel. I just want to run away at the mo. ds1 annual review is coming up and he has had a bit of a shit year so its not going to be fun. Ds2 diabetic eye appt is on friday and he is not going to want the stingy stuff in his eyes and its going to be horrid. His bloods were stonkingly high last week but i think it is because he is hitting puberty although they have better this week.

Keep strong. Is it possible you could try one of the meetings? Sometimes the thought of it is worse than the actuality.

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