Hello, my 9 year old (just yesterday!) ds has been concerning me for a long time now. I've been to the doctors and he read the list I took with me and he thought there were some issues there, basically need to speak to the school nurse who I've requested contact me via the school and the dr has also written.
He started a new school this September and we had parents' evening last week, his teacher also had concerns which I was both relieved and upset about. It was good to know that she had picked up on things too as I was so worried it was maybe just me! She was also glad that we'd noticed problems too.
She's liasing with the SENCO and they have already helped him with a couple of things he had problems with, one of which was constantly tapping his white board pen every morning in school (I thought that could be stimming?) so they've replaced that with a little toy that he can fiddle with instead. I think that would satisfy his need to do something but minimise the distraction to other children.
There were other issues in school with him and other children but if I paste the list I took to the drs I wondered if anyone could give me their opinion please? I've since had a few concerns about ds2 who is 5 but who has different concerns for me but I wondered if it could be the same thing (or maybe nothing, I really don't know).
Ok, this is the list I took with me.
Sensory issues: very bothered by the way clothes feel, has to wear socks inside out, cuts tags from clothes and toys, notices small noises that others don't and noises hurt his ears (that are usual sounds), crowds are too much for him to cope with and he gets extremely anxious and upset, the feel of clothes bother him so much that he sits in boxers at home quite happily
Self stimming, flaps his hands, makes strange squawking noises and other random noises, teacher said he makes random noises in class
Doesn't concentrate, has to be told the same thing over and over again and still doesn't really get it or pay attention.
Meltdowns, cannot cope and cries, rages, screams, hits, throws things, frustration
Collects certain things and keeps them in meticulous order, checks all the time to make sure it is all there and knows when it's been touched
Social issues: doesn't know when to stop with jokes or talking, doesn't really understand sarcasm or jokes fully, will talk about the same thing over and over without having a conversation more a monologue, doesn't know when to be quiet even after being asked to quiet down, unaware of social normalities, loud voice, no tact and says the first thing that comes into his mind, lacks empathy, everything has to be on his terms, unaware of the other person's interest, or lack of, in his monologue, takes comments literally, wants to have friends and conversations but struggles to do it, repetitive behaviour, narrow range of interests unlike other children his age
Has a very good memory of small details about things
Loves lego and building things, can easily make lego for older children, draws well, minecraft, could spend hours on this in his own world.
Sleeping problems: finds it hard to get to sleep and always wakes early
Prefers routine and struggles if plans change
Other than all that he does get on ok at school and plays, interacts with his siblings and us and other family etc but just not the way I'd expect. I hope that makes sense and I hope this isn't too long.
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CheeseandGherkins · 30/10/2012 17:41
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