DS2 is 10 and has severe autism. His behaviour has become more challenging as he's got older - mainly as a result of having to wait, go somewhere he doesn't want to go or/wanting something he can't have. Very often he'll cope with these things very well, but sometimes (and increasingly) he will lash out at me, DH or DS1, either hitting or pinching. It's very unpredictable and therefore hard to gauge when he's going to do it. He has some basic speech and is able to make requests verbally.
Today I had to take DS1's clarinet to school as he'd forgotten it and had to take DS2 (who is home -educated). We've been before (DS1 is VERY forgetful!) and DS2 has been happy to wander round the foyer while I speak to the receptionist. Today I had to spend a little more time than usual - there was a short queue - and DS2 started asking for 'car'. I said ' in one minute DS2' (I try to avoid the word 'wait' as it seems to be a trigger) and he pushed a passing teacher - not hard, but enough for her to feel it. I apologised and said ' DS2, no pushing ' - she was lovely about it and just walked off - but I was mortified.
Any experiences, tips etc? We've been lucky up until now in that we've been able to take him into most public places without too much stress, but the thought that he might lash out at a stranger makes my blood run cold.
Having said all that we then went to Tesco to pick up a parcel, a number of charity shops to look for a book for DS1 and the library - he was calm in all of them - I kept praising the positive behaviour and he was allowed to choose a DVD in the library. So the morning ended well - but I keep thinking back to the earlier incident.
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lirael · 26/10/2012 14:16
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