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lorisparkle Thu 25-Oct-12 00:27:21

We have been concerned about DS1 for a while but am going to GP tomorrow to see if he thinks an appointment with a peadiatrician would be a good idea. He is 6yrs old.

So here are our concerns....

Physical - gross co-ordination is poor - not very bad just a tendency to fall over, bump into things, knock things over, spill things, poor balance, etc - more than you would expect for his age but not so a stranger would notice

Speech - has a speech disorder - better than it was with SALT but poor phonology and some unusual grammar and vocabulary errors (he/she confusion, grey/brown confusion)

Behaviour - often plays alone and sometimes appears to struggle at getting involved in the games of others, can be immature, poor eye contact. Likes to do things 'his way'

Concentration - struggles to divert his attention away from what he wants to be doing - gets engrosed in his choice of activities and is easily distracted from anyone elses choice! Sometimes struggles to follow verbal instructions.

Literacy - Really struggling to learn to read and write. b/d confusion, m/w confusion, writes 'or' instead of 'or', just about knows single phonemes but digraphs are a really confusion.

So is this all normal for a 'young' Year 2 boy or is there something more.

His general ability is not a concern, his above average in maths, but can sometimes appear to not understand. Hearing and vision have been checked in the past.


littlebubbalove Thu 25-Oct-12 00:55:21

As i have never had a six year old i am not going have experiance. But it does sound like there is something going on. He could have slow learning or it could be something else. Try not to stress to much, the gp will sort it out tomorrow xx

PipinJo Thu 25-Oct-12 01:01:10

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GhostofMammaTJ Thu 25-Oct-12 01:08:02

I own a 6 year old boy and would be concerned if he were as you describe, tbh. The only two things yours and mine have in common are bumping in to things and knocking things over (but my DS has sight problems) and being above average in maths. My DS is in year one, and the oldest in his year.

YY, go to the GP! Good luck.

BertramBertram Thu 25-Oct-12 12:54:06

Loris - sounds similar to my DS (also 6). We put a lot of it down to kids developing at different rates. We have suspected dyslexia as (DH is dyslexic) but there seemed to be 'something else' - struggles with butons, gets frustrated easily etc. Someone mentioned dyspraxia and when I looked it up DS seemed to tick most of the boxes. Spoke to the school - he is not a priority for them although the SENCO recommended following the GP route. We have an appointment with the GP at our surgery that specialises in children. Will probably have to go the private route for an education psychologist assessment . I was worried about 'labelling' but I think it is more important to get him the help he needs than worry about that.

If the Ed psych comes back with the all clear, I'm hoping for some pointers in how we can help him develop his fine motor skills and deal with his frustration.

Good luck with your GP tomorrow. Hope all goes well. First step and all that...

lorisparkle Thu 25-Oct-12 14:59:14

Thanks everyone. We too have suspected dyslexia and dyspraxia. The GP said to wait to see what school say as they are getting an advisory teacher in to see about his literacy problems. He said that if we are still concerned he will refer to community peadiatrician. It is hard because we just feel that something is 'not quite right' but hard to pin point. The school have been great and put lots of support in for his reading, writing, and speaking skills and now working on his social skills. My concern is that the problems will become more noticable as he grows older and that I would rather get something more concrete to say for when he goes to secondary. I know this is a long time off but the wheels move slowly in Education!

We too have thought about a private Education Psychology assessment will be interested to hear how you get on BertramBertram.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Thu 25-Oct-12 15:29:26

My instant thought was dyspraxia and maybe HF ASD. But the 2 can overlap so much, you need that Paed referral. Don't leave the GP without one. Don't accept any wait and see nonsense. My DS2 has ASD and is also very dyspraxic, but your DS also sounds a lot like my DS3 who is merely quirky (but not NT!). He still gets he/she mixed up at 10 but has just passed the 11+ for grammar school. He's also very good at maths!

BertramBertram Thu 25-Oct-12 17:29:07

Will keep you posted. Not seeing GP till 31/10. The SENCO at school said that DS would be waiting a long time to be seen via the school as they only have so many hours and DS isn't a priority. DS has started to lose confidence and there has been some bullying mickey taking so I don't want to wait for the school/NHS.

I've made a list of all the things that concern me/make me thing something isn't right as I know my brain will go blank as soon as I step in the doctors office! I've even put examples in so that I can really explain what I'm trying to say...

lorisparkle Wed 31-Oct-12 00:07:36

Hope all goes well BertramBertram

Let us know how it goes

Ruggles Wed 31-Oct-12 06:31:44

Hi BertrtramBertram - really good luck today with the doc, I hope it goes well. We have concerns about our DS1 who has just turned 4 and I'm waiting to hear back from our HV about what to do next, but wonder if I should just make an appointment to see the doc. Let us know how you get on. smile

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