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nicolajc · 28/03/2006 11:32

I have a 5 year old ASD son and he is toilet trained but my friends son is also 5 and has ASD (they sit together at SN school!!) he is not toilet trained his mom has followed all advice from the school sat him on the toilet for ages and he just wont do anything.

She can take his nappy off him and he will stay dry all day but holds everything in untill bedtime when she puts a nappy back on him and he completely saturates it.

The school now are telling her they have to do something other wise at 15 he will still be in nappies.

She is a very gentle mom and wont do anything to upset him , he is also very big for his age and a potty is to small for him.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE if anyones got any suggestions as she is going MAD with it Sad

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WigWamBam · 28/03/2006 11:35

The school are wrong here, imo - just because he's not toilet trained at 5 doesn't mean he will still be in nappies at 15, and to say so is only likely to put pressure onto his mum and make her feel guilty.

Has she asked for advice from a continence specialist? If not then maybe that's the next thing to try. A friend of mine has a dd with SN and I know that she saw a continence specialist when she was 4 - it worked wonders.

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nicolajc · 28/03/2006 11:43

ia it something you have to pay for your self or is free? I did say that to her my self about the school putting pressure on her as she has enough to cope with allready but now the school have put it in her head she cant get it out and is determined to do something about it but in a GENTLE way!!

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WigWamBam · 28/03/2006 12:41

My friend was referred to the continence specialist, I think it was via the GP but it might have been through the HV. It was an NHS specialist so was free - she had to wait a couple of months but at least once she was on the waiting list she could relax because she knew something would be done. It worked really well for them - the lady she saw was excellent, it was a gentle process geared towards my friend's dd rather than just a one-size-fits-all approach, and after about three months it all just slotted into place for her dd.

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nicolajc · 28/03/2006 12:43

Thankyou so much it sounds like something my friend would be intressted in Smile

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onlyjoking9329 · 28/03/2006 21:32

my girls have autism and getting them out of nappies was hard work, to them the connection was made nappy = wee and poos it took a long time to convince them otherwise, they would go 12 hours without doing anything but as soon as the nappy went on they would use it, i tried lots of things, i tried putting pants under the nappy so that they actually felt wet, i tried a reward system for firstly just sitting on the toilet and then moved it on from that, we didn't use the potty cos they would then find it hard to use a different potty ect, so we just used the toilet we just had to get them to use it once so that they could get the reward which helped them to enjoy the positive outcome of the reward and the link was very quicky made, it did take a while, i did spend nearly all of one summer holiday in the loo with them both, then the next summer holiday we worked on DS also asd, he was much easier but i think that was cos we were more experienced.

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