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dyscalculia+being assessedfor possible asd/add

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hooper02 Fri 19-Oct-12 10:53:38

We had parents evening last night at the school. My eldest dd1(10yrs) is being assessed by camh for possible add/asd, I'm not sure because althoigh she is very shy, awkward and lacking in self confidence so was I as a kid(she is very much a mirror image of me in this respect down to being hopeless in social situations).
Anyway everything was going fine, they are very happy with her, starting to come out of her shell and seeming to be much happier in class but then said that she was still having problems with maths due to dyscalculia, this was a surprise to me as I knew she was having problems but no-one had said anything about dyscalculia. Apparently she was assessed last year but nobody told me and I am now feeling a bit guilty as I had been to help with her maths and we had both being getting frustrated. Then they asked if I had looked dr(psychologists) report from last year, I haven't received a copy of this either. How am I supposed to help if I am not informed! Anyway anyone know of any books/programmes I could use to help her with her maths, I find it difficult to help her without getting frustrated as for me maths was always easy

cornykrueger Fri 19-Oct-12 11:51:05

who assessed her - are school providing you with a copy of the report?
what are school doing to help her with her?

hooper02 Fri 19-Oct-12 11:58:08

Thats what i am going to have to find out this week, her teachers, one of whom is also the senco, are going to send me a copy of the psychologists report. I'm not sure what is extra help is going to be given with the dyscalculia, one of her teachers sons who is in her class was diagnosed at the same time. With the add/asd we have another appointment with camh next week so will have to wait and see what comes from that. She has been put on high needs so that when she goes to secondary school next year she hopefully will not fall through the cracks.

cornykrueger Fri 19-Oct-12 12:00:46

you could do with taking the report with you to CAMHS.
There's absolutely no reason why the SENCO can't give you a copy of the report today surely?
did they apologise for not informing you?

hooper02 Fri 19-Oct-12 12:13:33

She was going to print off a copy and give to my daughter bring home in a sealed envelope today but I asked her post it as I know what my dd is like for losing things. Camh i believe have got a copy, it was the psychologist who referred her but I will check to make sure. They seemed very surprised I hadn't copy, I think one was supposed to have been sent from the psychology service so they had assumed this had happened. Not the first the the psychologist have cocked up, my dd was refered in year 4 but we didn't hear anything,then the senco realised that pupils she had refered after her were being seen and chased it up, between an office move and change of staff they had lost her referral and that of another lad who was reffered at the same time. The senco then made sure that she was seen as soon as possible.

Handywoman Fri 19-Oct-12 12:32:14

I have a dd with maths difficulties due to dyslexia/dyscalculia. Two things I have found to be crucial:
1) finding out exactly what level of numeracy your dd is confident with and working from there, the frustration is possibly a sign you need to go 'back a step' or two! You may well need professional help and guidance to see what level your dd is working at, and national curriculum levels are very broad and won't necessarily give you a good idea. In my case my dd works with a specialist tutor who is worth her weight in gold (though expensive).
2) make use of practical and visual concrete aids to help her understand the patterns and relationships with numbers. Things like plastic representations of fractions, cuisiniere rods, abacus etc.
Your first step however is to see what the Educational Psychologist recommends, and take it from there. It is great that the school have taken this so seriously. I wouldn't have a cat in hell's chance of an EP report via the school. So that's really positive.
Handy Woman x

cornykrueger Fri 19-Oct-12 12:35:31

think we might be with the same CAMHS hooper! The level of organisation sounds about the same...

hooper02 Fri 19-Oct-12 12:49:39

Am going to have make an appointment with them next week to talk about her maths with them, didn't really have much time to go into details at the parents evening adn will have to wait to see what the ed psyc report says and go from there, just glad things finally seem to be moving

hooper02 Mon 22-Oct-12 20:13:15

Got another appointment with camh tomorrow, this time the dr wants to talk to dd on her own which i am perfectly happy with (there were many things I couldn,t talk about to or in front of my mum because she wouldn't/couldn't understand how I felt and would just get cross and angry). However dd is not keen on this and keeps saying that she wants me to stay and that there is nothing she wants to talk about that she cany say infront of me. I have tried to be understanding and patient with her aster the porblems I had with my mum(she always had the best of intentions but didn't get me)but I am sure there willbe things she is more likely to talk about if I am not in the room, suppose all I can do is wait and see what happens tomorrow and hope that we don't have crying and refusing to let me leave

hooper02 Tue 23-Oct-12 18:41:15

Had meeting with Dr at camh today Dr saw dd on her own, played games and talked with her. I went in at the end and talked with drm she said that dd would have an appointment with another dr in about two weeks who would observe her playing with toys at the clinic and that then they would see why she is on spectrum. I got the impression that they thinks she definitely on the spectrum and tbh )Iam feeling upset about this. Can't really talk to dh as he just says it's dd being ddand I feel that if she is diagnosed he will struggle to accept it. Haven't really got anyone else to talk to, if I talk to my dad I know he will mention it to my stepmum and it just give my ss a greater sense of superiority as to how great her daughter is. Been able to stay together for now but am feeling more down(have a history of depression/anxiety).

Inaflap Tue 23-Oct-12 19:53:15

Give yourself some time. Its more than normal to feel like this and you have had a bit of a bomb dropped on you. Aspergers and asd can present differently in girls thn boys. Girls ar generally better at copying and developing coping strategies.

Your daughter is till the lovely girl she always has been. The road might be a little more rocky than for others but there are many many postitves. Recommend a book. Alled Asperkids. Its a bit american but the author has aspies and i on herself. She also gives some good tips on how to teach visually.

hooper02 Tue 23-Oct-12 20:37:29

I know, just feel like I'm on my own with this at the moment, going to ring my dsis later and have a natter with her, will probably feel better after that

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