My son is 4 and has ADHD .. We haven't been given an official diagnoses because of his age but have seen many Heath professionals which say he defiantly has but he is too young .. From an early age has displayed such signs ... My son isn't particularly naughty just has a lot of energy and has difficulty in managing his behaviour . Bearing this in mind we have had a recent issue with his new primary school which is where I need my advice please
He start in foundation stage in September he had settled really well and was really enjoying it. He started off doing afternoons , then morning then morning and lunch. He was getting glowing reports how intelligent he was how he was managing himself really well nd had not had any issues what so ever .
Then come last Monday it was his first day staying all day, when I picked him up they said he had been unsettled for the afternoon and had said he had become angry because he wanted to come home.
Another fresh day Tuesday I'm out shopping and receive a call from his school asking me to collect him straight away it was 12 when I received the call took me a few minutes to drive to this school hen I got there, the teachers wanted to talk to me about what had happened and the next stage as they call it .
Please bear in mind this is the first incident since starting he had walked into school and greeted the teacher with "shut up miss" when she had said good morning to him ... She immediately sent him to the head teachers office where he stayed to think about his actions for 20 minutes( which I agree with it was rude of him and he shouldn't of done it for what ever reason he had) he was aloud back to the foundation stage when straight away he had walked in and thrown something ( not sure what ) they immediately corner him because if the safety of other children again fine with me. 2 adults had him cornered which he wasn't happy about so they decided to try and remove him into a place of safety which didn't result well .... He had tried to kick both of the teachers trying to remove him , this resulted in him becoming increasingly angry which then lead to them physically restraining him on the floor and removing him this took 3 adults ( because even though he is a small lad ) they reckon he was 2 strong when in his state . I was called at 12 this all started at 9 am when they called me he was calm and sitting at the table and drawing.
He was exclude for the rest of the week and I was told I needed to attend a meeting on Friday ( just gone ) which I did I took my son in uniform and with lunch as this is what I was told to do . When I to there I assumed they had taken my son off for his normal activities for that day. I was informed by the head teacher that they I'll only let my son back to school for 1 hour a day 9am /10am because they think he isn't ready for school and they are not ready for him.
We had several meetings about my sons behaviour prior to going to this school and I've told them what works and what doesn't for him .
In the meeting I was armed with my own opinion and asked them why they couldn't of not let him out to the play ground to run of his temper and suggest that they were the catalyst of making him worse when they have restrained him ( I have tried it once and it doesn't work it makes him angrier )
So I'm left with my son only able to attend school 9-10 ( it takes us longer to walk to school ) and I'm at a dead end .
I immediately have informed his caff co ordinator and seeked advice from a sure start centre . But what do I do now I don't think this is fair considering he is unable to control his temper ... And is always hyper.
I'm not bothered if you want to critise and say its his fault I'm just looking for advice or even parents who have been in a similar situation and can give me some light
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MrsD01 · 14/10/2012 18:09
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