I have a meeting with school next week following a complaint I have made to school govs. My complaint is the SENCO's reaction to my concerns about my DD's maths (Dyslexic dd with slow processing and poor working memory). When I told SENCO I was concerned about very slow progress and massive lack of confidence (tears and tantrums around homework, sobbing in bed) the SENCO told me I am causing my daughter's anxiety by being anxious myself. I did try to get her to reflect on this in a very tactful way, but she merely re-iterated it.
Now, following the letter of complaint to govenors a meeting has been set up. class teacher, HT and 2 x govs will be there but not SENCO.
TBH I am bricking it about this meeting, I feel like it will be more ganging up type dynamic, that the HT will try and dominate the agenda and blow the usual hot air.
I am taking dh with me, although I might have to sedate him so he does not get angry(!) In terms of my concerns am not asking for much from the school (just things like NOT putting up homework on the computer that's too difficult, closer monitoring of her progress, providing me with detailed targets for her development would be a mahoosive step in the right direction)
Ultimately I just want the school to realize that it is out of order to tell a parent with genuine concerns (which incidentally are corroborated by dd's specialist tutor who believes my dd has a very shakey grasp of numeracy concepts - assessed my dd who is 9 and in the summer did not know what an 'odd' and 'even' number was) that the parent is the problem. I feel like I cannot go forward unless the school (well SENCO) acknowledge the inappropriateness. What the hell do I do if they don't acknowledge it?
Any other hints and tips about how to approach this meeting?
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