hi hope it's ok to post here; my youngest son (almost 2) isn't...'cuddly.' He'll blow kisses when asked, he'll kiss you (and then kiss whoever else is in the room!), he'll constantly ask to be held up, has no problem being kissed, loves sitting on you/horse play, but just doesn't initiate cuddling.
So, I am curious what is it about affection that makes it an ASD flag? Is it a sensory issue?
DD(4) has autism (pretty severe) and is cuddly & affectionate. She loves hugs and kisses & also hugs and kisses us (immidiate family and close friends) unprompted - though she sometimes overdoes it with her little sister.
Re warning flags - the biggest red flag we had around 2 was speech and language delay (i.e.also difficulty understanding language) and lack of communication in general (also no pointing, Dd would never bring things to me to show me), no pretend play.
Yes, had already looked at CHAT and there was no question that worried me/raised any warning bells
His language is good and developing all the time, and does some symbolic pretend play, though not masses. He's still got 6 weeks till his 2nd birthday. He's very interactive, likes company and for people to do stuff with him.
I probably sound really stupid and a total worry well. It was more of a curiosity - and my other son was very cuddly! I suppose it's hard not to compare.
But I didn't mean to offend. Of course I realise that there are simply some kids who don't cuddle, and it doesn't mean it's ASD. My niece is the same. Five years old and only just started to hug unprompted.
We have a book 'Hugs' which he loves and reads, all about a monkey looking for his mum in the jungle (to hug) and coming across lots of other animals hugging...he adores this book and will hug himself or his adored teddy...just not into hugging us!
Sorry I didn't realise you were worried about it. I think, on it's own, it is nothing to be particularly worried about. ASD diagnostic criteria relate to social interaction, communication and imagination and this consist of a complex list of behaviours? For details about the diagnostic criteria seehere
Interestingly, lots of people with ASD like tight hugs. A very well-known person with autism, Temple Grandin, even built herself a 'hug machine' (there was a film about her with Clare Danes in the lead role).
Thanks Inappropriatelyemployed, that's kind of you - but is that the right link?
I'm not 'worried', yet, just aware; I have a super close friend who's battling with her own anxieties about her six year old son who she thinks (and I would agree) has Aspergers. Through the process of her coming to terms with this, our conversations have been very open (and hopefully, from my side, supportive) but it has sort of drilled in a certain train of thought into my own life. If that makes sense!