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Constant sense of failure and self loathing.

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BumptiousandBustly Mon 01-Oct-12 10:18:25

Ds has asbergers. He is very high functioning and if you only see him for a short while, specially is I am present, you wouldn't realise.

He is highly verbal and very good at talking to adults.

I am really really struggling. It's do hard work, I feel like I am telling him off all the time, I wake up braced for the day. I am often stressed as soon as he starts speaking and realise that how stressed I am is affecting how I interact with him.

I feel like I am failing all the time, I should be enjoying him more, managing to teach him more etc. and then I feel really crap about myself and get into this really bad cycle about it all!

Not helped by everyone around me saying. Oh but he's so lovely. And ils who are determined to believe he is fine and doesn't need a 'label'!

coff33pot Mon 01-Oct-12 11:38:25

The in ils opinion doesn't count they don't live with you so turn a deaf war to their unconstructive statements x

As for feeling a failure I get some days when I m tense at hearing the same record over and over too that is normal. It is hard work with watching there every move and also having to keep your own patience some days.

Try just rewarding for the good choices he makes for a while for example even if he has done something wrong, if he makes the right choice to rectify it reward him with a token or sticker towards a goal reward like computer time or something he really likes. That way it might help you feel better in that although you are telling him off you are also appreciating that he is trying hard too smile

coff33pot Mon 01-Oct-12 11:39:52

Deaf ear! Sorry daft phone!

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