How do I know I'm not just wasting everyone's time? What happens if she's having a good day when they're assessing her? How do I know I'm not seeing/thinking more than is actually there?
Briefly, I have 4dc. Dd2 (child no.3) I think may be aspergers. I've thought it from age 3. We just about got through nursery, she wasn't happy until the day she left. Reception was an absolute nightmare. I try not to think of what we went through as it is really upsetting. I didn't go with my instincts and I will beat myself up forever about it. Anyway, she's now 9 and in year 5, and is learning to cope with school. Academically she's great. Emotionally, socially, she's not. She's just started to talk to teachers if she wants something, she's now learned not to cry during harvest festival/christmas assemblies etc. She has 1 best friend and I would say 5 others that she can talk to. She's come on leaps and bounds these past 2 years. She had severe anxiety issues that are now more manageable. I don't even know what else to write as there's just so much!
I saw a parent support partner at school who was fantastic. One of her sons is autistic so she understands. Over our few chats she said it sounded as though dd was on autistic spectrum. She then got her friend who works for CAMHS to (unofficially) chat to me who also said she was on the spectrum. They said they wouldn't do anything further as dd was now coping well at school and we are managing her behaviour at home.
I feel she might need the statement for the school move in 2 years time.. I'm not sure her new school will be as understanding if there's no official statement. Does a statement just mean school has to provide the extra level of care advised or is there more to it?
We have struggled with issues for years, sometimes struggled quite badly with her issues/behaviour. But now she's learning to cope I wonder if it's worth persuing or not?...
Any advice and help would be greatly appreciated.
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frazzledbutcalm · 28/09/2012 12:57
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