Hi,
don't know if anyone can help me. My DS#1 (9) has just had his parent's evening. The teacher's first words to DH (I had to stay home to look after the kids) were..'what are we going to do with your son?' . She tells us that he is basically too laid-back....he never finished a piece of work as he runs out of time. We've expereinced this at home too. He's very clever, interested in things, popular (although doesn't belong to a 'gang' as such) but it's really hard to get him to do anything that doesn't interest him...such as cleaning his teeth, getting to the toilet on time (he often soils his pants) and doing homework. He even chucks apple cores behind the sofa rather than take them to the bin . DH just thinks he's lazy and we need to encourage him more.....well, we've never managed to 'encourage' him to do anything he doesn't want to up till now...we've tried star charts, getting cross, pleading , withholding or offering extra pocket money. Nothing seems to make a difference. He simply doesn't seem to care about consequences. But this time I think there might be a real problem..... when I broached the subject of his slowness at school he started to cry...he's very aware that he's the only one on his table that doesn't finish work and he's terrified of being put down a table (to the bottom). It seems to me that he has actually accepted the possible consequence of his 'laziness' but can't do anything about it.
His maths and reading are quite good and up till now he's always been OK as they haven't really had to do much writing. The knowledge is there but it's hard for him to show what he knows.
Previous teachers have been able to see his good points...this one is more concerned with getting stuff down on paper and that is DS's weak point.
His cousin has been diagnosed with mild dispraxia and thinking back to his uncle (my brother) as a child I wonder if he had it too. Is it possible that my son has a problem. DH thinks it's just bone idleness that he will grow out of but I'm getting concerned.
Sorry to waffle on but I am really beginning to worry now.
TIA
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Anyone else have a 'lazy' DS?
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joelalie · 21/03/2006 12:01
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