I posted this in Primary Education...

[AVoidkaTheKillerZombies]

But have been told I might get a better response here, but I probably knoew that anyway :)

DS started reception in September. I knew it wasnt going very well, but last week at parents evening we were told he isnt 'accessing the curriculum'. He has ASD and LD. He is in a MS school

His teacher and his 1-2-1 (who work with him full time) are brilliant, but he wont do any of the activities that they want because he doesnt want to have anything to with other children. He gets really upset and starts stimming (rubbing his legs).

We have a multi-agency meeting in November but I feel really deflated by the whole thing. I am not sleeping because I just dont know what to do and I am a worrier. When we spoke to the Ed Psych before he started she said that we would know by Christmas if this was the right placement for him.

[starfishmummy]

Have you looked at what other options there are locally? Are there schools with units attached that would be better or maybe a special school? You could also consider joint placements where he does part time in your local mainstream and part time in a unit/special school. His current 1-2-1 might be able to be with him in both schools.
Or full time special school might be best for him at the moment - it doesn't have to be forever. DS's SS have children there who start by doing maybe one day a week in mainstream and end up moving to MS full time.

Perhaps you could use the time before the meeting having a look at other options? I know that "policy" is all for inclusion, but if he won't have anything to do with the other children where he is currently, and he is not accessing the curriculum he is not being "included".

I know about the worrying because we started ds (complex needs including physical disability) in a mixed placement - with SS and our local MS, with a view to moving to MS full time; but it just didn't work out. Everytime I was there I was given a "list" of problems and was totallt stressed. In the end we decided that he was happy at the SS (where he spent most time anyway) so we just called it a day with MS. And 9 years later I can say it was the right move.

[IndigoBell]

:(

I agree with StarFishMummy.

All you can do is the best given your options. So you can only choose between the schools that he can go to.

So I would start by finding out what your options are, and then your choice will be easier.

But if he isn't accessing the curriculum in reception - SS may well be the best option for him.

[AVoidkaTheKillerZombies]

Thank you - I suppose you have confirmed what I have been too scared to tell myself, that he isnt happy at school and he needs something different. I dont know if thats more support and better strategies at this school, or a different placement.

:(