Because right now I feel like I am the only one. Ds is 8 and very high functioning. He also has hypermobility and dyspraxia.
Ds was until recently in MS, I would be called in almost daily to help him calm down. He simply couldnt cope there. He is now in an ASD unit attached to a mainstream school, he has been there for a matter of days and has already had a couple of meltdowns where he has needed to be restrained today he has come home with marks on his arms from being restrained and a bruise on his face.
We do not have these issues at home and I am at my wits end. When these incidents are reported back to me they just sound utterly horrific and everyone seems so shaken and shocked by them. I am too, although I suppose having been dealing with them in the school environment for the past three years I am used to it.
What do we do? I feel like there is nowhere left to turn. We tried mainstream, we tried asd unit, nothing works, the only thing that works is him being at home where he is calm and happy. We live in a very Home Educating unfriendly area and life would be very difficult if we pulled him out to HE, I am beginning to think this really is the only option though. The agencies involved with him here though seem to think that he HAS to be forced into not having ASD, this is how it feels to me anyway. He HAS to be in school, he HAS to learn to adapt, what if he can't? What if he simply cannot change and adapt to suit the school system?
I just feel totally isolated and alone and I am sure ds does too, no amount of talking works, no amount of explaining to him that his behaviour are unacceptable works, nothing works. I honestly do not know where we go from here.
I am scared that even with diagnosis they will say it must be my parenting as all other help is in place, ie ASD unit, statement etc. As I say though nothing happens at home, he is happy and calm and a gentle child 98% of the time when here.
I am in despair.
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MissHazeleyes · 18/10/2011 18:34
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