I just need someone to talk to me about this. Previously posted in chat and was kindly advised that maybe here might be better.
DS1 (year 4) has just been for a dyslexia assesment and it looks like he needs the full psychology report and all the assesments that go with it. He is a bright lad (although even this, will be questioned) to me anyway, but has problems spelling, processing and retaining information. We have a tutor outside school once a week and do work with him (although it can be like pulling teeth) and thought his reading was coming on really well, he seems to be reading almost fluently. In the preliminary report, it states he is behind on this as well as everything else to varying degrees.
DS1, also had a melt down yesterday and is very jealous over his friend who will include DS2 when he comes to play at our house. DS1 couldn't take it or control himself, shouting and crying and I had to take him away from the situation and tell him he couldn't lose control like this or he would lose his friend (and frighten his little brother).
It is shit, because the comparison thing is the big indicator to school and the experts, but for us, we really need to stop doing it. He is our bright lad and should remain so.
On top of this, our DS2 (3 1/2) has started pooing his pants, which, after over a year of being dry/clean and using the toilet just fine, is a real backwards step. I don't understand why he's doing it or how to get it to stop.
I know no big traumas have happened to us as a family and we are lucky, but I feel like the tide is turning now. What if DS2 becomes the smelly, lonely isolated child at school if the pooing is ongoing?
What if DS1 continues to struggle and have his confidence knocked because he doesn't get enough support at school? We can meet the fees for all the tests and are prepared to shell out for a session a week at our local dyslexia centre, but we don't have enough money for a private school or Steiner school that might benefit him. I understand that normal schools won't do much for dyslexic children and don't pay the £500 fee for the dyslexia tests. Is that right?
I want to feel like my kids are happy again and not struggling.
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DCs both at once! Dyslexia and Pooing pants
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BloodyGussets · 14/10/2011 19:12
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