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I cried infront of dd2 headteacher!!

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lisad123 Fri 14-Oct-11 16:55:25

Not sure I can ever face her again blush

I have had a terrible week with the girls but mainly very worried about dd1s mental health.

I went in to ask if there was any full-time nursery places to what she replied, "under what criteria"?
I said "under that fact that I'm just so tired" and promptly burst into tears. She was so nice and said of course we can have a full-time place. smile but I'm now worried they will assume I'm not coping! I am just about coping but will admit it's hard.
Do I email her and just explain myself better or just pretend nothing happened?
I always feel bad when I cry infront of professionals but I don't know how to stop.

IndigoBell Fri 14-Oct-11 16:59:33

I wouldn't worry at all about crying in front of the HT.

She will think the truth, that you're trying to cope with an awful lot.

Don't email her, pretend nothing happened - because nothing did happen. Crying is normal and fine.

Ben10WasTheSpawnNowWeLoveLego Fri 14-Oct-11 17:02:18

So far in the last year I have cried in front of the HT, Deputy Head, SENCO, Family Liason Worker and teacher all in separate meetings. It worked for me. They gave him the interventions he needed. Had I just stayed strong and quiet, I am not sure that they would have taken things as seriously as they have.

Ben10WasTheSpawnNowWeLoveLego Fri 14-Oct-11 17:03:01

BTW don't say anything about the crying.

I think I just need a default "I agree with Indigo" button!

unpa1dcar3r Fri 14-Oct-11 17:03:13

Aw bless ya Lisa...don't let it bother you honey. I bet she's cried a few times herself in front of others.
The thing is it did the trick; as in you're getting a place for your child which you might not have got if you hadn't cried and shown her how low yu are feeling.
Don't worry about her thinking you can't cope either. She's not daft.
She sounds lovely actually.

2011RWC Fri 14-Oct-11 17:16:21

I wouldn't mention it either or email! Have a treat tonight to cheer yourself up and try to put it to the back of your mind!

I've cried in front of four separate people just this week - (it's been a busy week) I've eaten a treat size bag of giant buttons and a treat size bag of crunchie rocks, I'm now feeling much better smile

lisad123 Fri 14-Oct-11 17:21:21

I'm at a wine tasting for the charity I'm a trustee of, so maybe more drinking than tasting tonight wink

2011RWC Fri 14-Oct-11 17:34:41

Yes definitely - DH just texted and asked did we need anything brought home - yep WINE!! Have a good night x

ineedstrongcoffee Fri 14-Oct-11 17:37:05

I have cried in front of ds HT too,and had the same thoughts omg what if she thinks im not copeing sad
However it was probably the best thing i could have done cos i actually made her cry too and up till that point i really thought she was a bit hard,bitter and twisted.My opinion soon changed and we had a fantastic relationship since that eventfull morning.

zzzzz Fri 14-Oct-11 17:41:47

If you got snot on her apologise otherwise, that's life. I had a huge muscled tree surgeon burst into tears on my doorstep last year (think checked shirt and axe).....some days are shit and showing it is fine.

lisad123 Fri 14-Oct-11 17:58:02

Zzzz we need to know why a massiveman with axe was crying at your door!

Ineedalife Fri 14-Oct-11 19:27:29

LOL at zzzz and the weeping axemangringrin.

lisad.... I saw Dd3's senco in the corridor toady but was very relived that she didn't come to talk to me because I don't think I would have held it together.hmm.

Hope your wine drinking tasting goes ok

coff33pot Fri 14-Oct-11 19:52:28

lisad I have cried infront of the head a few times so much so she places a box tissues on the side table! dont mention it and just think that you got a place for dd which is the most important bit. Hope the wine is going down a treat!

zzzzz Fri 14-Oct-11 21:28:29

I shouldn't really of mentioned the weeping axeman because he really was sad. Some sod had stolen all his tools and he wasn't insured....I think it was just all too much for him, and he was supposed to be removing a large tree at the bottom of our road.

Sadly with a house full of dc's one of whom is super sensitive all I could do was become very British in the face of adversity.

Obviously in another life I would have gathered him up and comforted him......but I am an extremely matronly Mother of 5 with a very nice husband of my own. C'est la vie.

I actually have cried in front of a horrid head before [old school not new lovely head] was not pretty. Drink wine lisa and keep chin well up next time you meet. The British are marvelous at rising above things. grin

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