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AIBU in HATING the term "SN top trumps"?

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Dillydaydreaming · 10/10/2011 16:05

Seriously people - don't use it as it's just horrible. This should be a supportive board for those of us who are coping with children whose development does not fit "the norm" in some way or other - life is hard enough without dissolving into bitching and topping on here as well.

Nuff said - am off to sort out DS.

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Sevenfold · 10/10/2011 16:06

very well said

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ThePumpkinofDoomandTotalCha0s · 10/10/2011 16:35

yanbu. It's unhelpful to say the least.

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GoodAndBluts · 10/10/2011 16:37

YANBU, very well said!

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Dawndonna · 10/10/2011 16:56

Sounds fair to me. I hope I haven't done it unwittingly.

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justaboutstillhere · 10/10/2011 17:13

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SephreniaRidesABroomstick · 10/10/2011 17:27

I don't even know what that means and from what's been said, I'm not sure I want to either as it sounds derogatory Sad

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BakeliteBelle · 10/10/2011 17:41

I really hate it too, having had it used against me on AIBU. I sometimes feel there are lots of people lying in wait to scream 'SN Top Trumps' on AIBU. Not sure I've seen it on here before yesterday...

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thefirstMrsDeVeerie · 10/10/2011 17:45

Hate it.

I also hate tradgedy top trumps.

much worse than swearing which seems to be getting a lot of attention ATM.

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StewieGriffinsMom · 10/10/2011 17:50

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Sevenfold · 10/10/2011 18:54

it is used in the sn topic, wasn't sure who it was directed it, was it me or the other poster on said thread with a severely disabled child.
it is a horrid term when used just to hurt, even more so when used in what is supposed to be a supportive topic.

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StewieGriffinsMom · 10/10/2011 18:55

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WilsonFrickett · 10/10/2011 19:05

Goodness, the only time I've heard anything like that on this board was when I de-lurked and said I felt uncomfortable about posting as my DS issues aren't too bad and I was told that we dont do top trumps here. Sad if that's no longer the case. But the boards do seem a bit, well, snippy at the mo?

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sneezecakesmum · 10/10/2011 19:06

It was used here on SN many moons ago in a particularly vitriolic and very long thread. Thankfully the majority of those posters have left the SN board and it is now very safe and supportive and nowhere near as cliquey as it used to be.

Whether severely physically or mentally affected, they are all such special children with parents who need help, advice and above all support. SN is the most supportive of the MN threads and considering the emotional pain many posters are going through it is miracle most are so kind and understanding.

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Chundle · 10/10/2011 19:09

What thread was that posted on?? Never heard that term before and wouldn't dream of using it!
I find this board extremely helpful and a wealth of knowledge

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MangoMonster · 10/10/2011 19:19

I don't like the term either, however I think it's easy to forget the woode range of situations people are going through on SN board. I'm probably guilty of generalising when really I know nothing about anyone's situation day to day. It's human nature but worth being self aware about.

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Sevenfold · 10/10/2011 21:17

oh please.
do not pretend that the sn topic is a safe place, if it was terms like this would not be used. people would not be hounded of the topic, or have crass remarks made to them.
sadly the sn topic has become just like any other topic now, your face has to fit(or should that be DX)

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MangoMonster · 10/10/2011 21:36

sevenfold, I'm sorry you feel that way, but that's not my personal experience. Please explain why you think it's that way? I'd be very sad if it was.

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GoodAndBluts · 10/10/2011 21:49

Ive not been able to post on SN for ages now as I felt so hurt and destroyed after a new poster decided I was jealous of their extra respite and called me a bully for disagreeing. I used to post enearly everything on here about my DS2, but now, I can barely bring myself to post. Only last week I went on a thread I thought would be a laugh, and lo and behold, SN MNers eating each other alive.

Tis not a nice place ATM, not somewhere I would care to come for advice. I long for the days when everyone got on and there were no fights. That was the SN boards back in ye old days anyway.

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