I just can't cope with DD any more. When she was 4yo, her paed said she's on the autistic spectrum, threw some leaflets at me and left me to get on with it. Can't get official dx as school refusing to back me because if they do, they would actually have to help me.
DD has been a school refuser since school nursery (tbh even pre-school). Schools have never cared because I've got her there, on time. They see no problems with her (ha fucking ha, they do, but will never admit that they are 'official') I wiush they could live through a ,morning in my house. I just can't fiucking do it any more.
No oine but noone will help me. I can't get the children with disabilities team at SS to offer help because she 'doesn't have PHYSICAL disabilities'. They refer me to Child protection which will just get all my dc took away. CP never offer any practical help. I can't leave DD alone in a room with any of her siblings in case she hits or kicks or punches them (which is not normal in a 13yo, I don't care what people say, 13yo's don't take out frustrations on an 8mo baby FFS) I can't get any housework done.
I spoke to the HV who said she'd refer to homestart. Two weeks ago heard nothing. She also said that she waoould refer to SWAN about how small my house is (HA house, 2.5 bed when I need a 4bed). Heard nothing. Only ASD support group is over an hours bus ride away and I can't afford the £10 it costs to get there. Can't get DLA for DD bcause none will help get an 'official' dx - even tho it says on all her paed records that she is somewhere on the spectrum, it's not official by ADOS test.
I am fucking falling apart here and noone will help. DS2 also has asd - again, 'slightly' more official, buyt still blank refusal by school to back me and get ADOS test done. Even though paed, S&L threrapist OT and phgysio all say he's on the spectrum. NADA. Scuse shit typing I'm at my wits end.
DD keeps telling DS1 that she hates him, wishes he hadn't been born, wishes he was dead, doesn't want him in HER house, hits him, I can't keep him safe, he is getting fucked up emotionally by the shit DD is telling him, I want my fucking life back. DS2 is in his own world, is nearly 8yo, still can't fucking write properly.I'm ready to just phone SS and walk away.
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CardyMow · 23/09/2011 18:41
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