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Birthday Party - Suspected Aspergers

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imogengladheart Mon 12-Sep-11 18:57:09

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AspergerFiction Mon 12-Sep-11 19:07:47

I saw (and responded to) a similar thread on a different forum recently.

The general consensus was that most kids with AS do not really enjoy the 'traditional' birthday party.

Why not just take him on a train trip if that is what he enjoys. I doubt he will miss the (friend) girl if he is enjoying the train. Having a friend (who isn't going to enjoy it) will only spoil it for him anyway.

Tota1Xaos Mon 12-Sep-11 19:24:30

agree. If he wants a family day out rather than to invite others in his class, then go with that.

Ben10WasTheSpawnNowWeLoveLego Mon 12-Sep-11 19:33:41

DS (beign assessed for AS)has just turned 6 and having a party for his birthday was a nightmare. There was no-one to invite from school as he has no friends so invited a son of a friend. He spent most of the party in his room as he couldn't cope and took himself away upstairs.

However a trip to Legoland with exit passes etc was highly successful so that will be next year's birthday treat rather than a party.

WilsonFrickett Mon 12-Sep-11 21:06:03

Yep, treat rather than party, although we had a very successful bouncy castle party last year when DS was 5. I think the bouncing and carrying on meant he didn't have to get involved in niceities, and then he was so calm after bouncing that the food bit went really well. I think trampolines / bouncy castles / soft play can work well as long as they're not too busy cos it kind of masks that there's no real interaction going on IYSWIM. And only having food DS likes, rather than 'party' food.

Dawndonna Tue 13-Sep-11 10:13:17

I agree. DS2 asked us if the birthday party at five was for us. That was it, he's had his own way ever since. He's happy to do something special that he wants to do. He hates birthday parties, too much noise, different smells, etc.

DeWe Tue 13-Sep-11 11:20:46

Why wouldn't the girl enjoy the train trip?
I'm sure both my girls (10 and 7) would enjoy it, particularly as a birthday treat. Ask her mum.
You cna make it into a treat by maybe eating lunch at the cafe and giving them a small amount to spend in the shop instead of a part bag. Then take them back to your place and cook pancakes or something as a treat.

brandy77 Wed 14-Sep-11 12:33:24

Im not bothering with my sons 7th birthday in october (aspergers), he doesnt cope at all and its such hardwork dealing with his behaviour. Hes getting a bike for his birthday so ive told him he can ride on that and we can have a takeaway with his 2 pet rats and we will have a dance together but other kids come into the mix and hey ho birthday ruined

joencaitlinsmum Wed 14-Sep-11 12:52:44

I agree with what has already been posted my ds (11) who has aspergers hasnt had a "party" for years and also refuses to go to anyone else's parties as well.

He is sport mad so for the last couple of years we have paid for him and his one close friend to go to some specialised football training for the day. We just then have a small family celebration. Couldnt see the point of having a full blown do when it only leaves him tramatised sad

I think the train trip sounds great fun smile

Mouth Wed 14-Sep-11 14:55:24

how about train trip alone and then invite girl friend over later or the next day?

MrsMagnolia Wed 14-Sep-11 16:48:06

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thisisyesterday Wed 14-Sep-11 19:54:21

do you have any nice railways near you? like the bluebell railway or something similar?

if so then I am sure his friend would love to come out for the afternoon with you all and go on the train and have an ice cream treat and all the rest of it?
or could you go somewhere he likes, that she would also like, but take the train there?

imogengladheart Sun 18-Sep-11 12:08:54

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