Hi, my DD is 6.5 and has a developmental delay of approx 2 years. In some areas she's within normal ranges, but has majour difficulties with speech and language.
She's very sociable most of the time but will cut people off for no apparent reason. She'll chat away to strangers as if she's known them all her life, but expects them to know everything about her too and will often say strange things that don't make sence or that are in apropriate like "I don't want to be sick when I die" (This was said to a shop keeper, the minute he said "hello" to her)
She gets quite obsessed with things and will go on and on about the same TV programme for days. It's so draining.
She can act quite normally, when she's at home or with other members of her family. She tends to show her self up more in front of strangers, she loves their attention.
She's also very unpredictable, she loves her grandma, but the other day, she poped in to see her while she was at her other Grandmas house and DD shut the living room door on her, and refused to say hello.
She'll also quote lines from her favourate film or act it out in front of strangers, without telling them what she's doing. It's so embarrassing! She'll talk non stop at them too, not really listening to what they say in return.
She's being tested for ASD, but they don't think she has it as she's so caring, compassionate and understands emotions etc. From the questionairre, they said it isn't likely, but they haven't scored the other acessment.
I just feel so frustrated with her as she comes accross as so full on and strange, I dread to think what people must think of me, when I can't what she's doing.
I'd love to be able to understand why she behaves in certain ways and how to get the best out of her, but I don't. I don't know wether to tell her she's acting strange and to try to act normal, or to just let her carry on. My mum says I should be more strict and she'll say to her "We've had enough now, can you be quiet for a few minutes". Although it isn't naughty behaviour as such, she just loves to be the centre of attention.
I'm not sure if anyone will understand this, as I've had a couple of but it's helped to get it out anyway. I just feel like a bit of failiour as a mother at the moment. I'm sure not many mums could say they don't understand their own child.
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mummyloveslucy · 07/09/2011 23:03
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