DS reins then a lead Then holding his wrist Then fingers on wrist and waiting for my signal. Even now, he waits for the green man when he's out and about if he's using a crossing, he wasn't able to cross a road without one until he was 10 or so. But it depends on you child, doesn't it? My DS has no LD other than his AS, so it was awareness training and physical and verbal keys until he saw the need.
ds is 10, he is usually in a wheelchair however yesterday he was walking, we were waiting for the lights to change and the green man to come on and the next thing I knew he shot off across the road shouting can't wait, he is impatient at times although it was dangerous. He does have sld among other issues.
If he doesn't like being touched, then I'd go for consistent training with hand and eye signals. He can't cross until you have given him the nod, or green man and count to three before moving. He didn't cross until the signal, so he is aware of what is necessary. It's getting him to understand that road users run lights, my DS didn't understand rule breakers either and didn't factor them in. That has changed too, with maturity.
Watching this thread with interest. With DS it is his tempermental mood that alters things. We have no green lights just ordinary roads to cross and the summer is really busy here.
If he is "with us" he will stop and wait but will insist on waiting virtually tipping over the kerb into the road. If he gets sudden impulsiveness then he will charge off.
Soooo I give him the dog For some reason walking the dog and me telling DS he is now responsible for him and he has to watch him for traffic as we dont want him squashed seems to work and slow him down. If I tell the dog to keep by the wall DS will stay into the wall and telling the dog stay! DS stays when we get to the kerb seems to do the trick at the moment!
Fantastic idea coff33pot. Making him actively think about the situation. My mother used to say that a gentleman took a lady's arm, so DS used to escort her over roads as she was a little old lady. He knows it was a line now!
I just might have a go at that line myself! I must admit I do use DS own senses to play a part in his learning. If he is having a bad day he doesnt take demands or requests easily at all. BUT he loves being in control and responsible helping someone to do "jobs" bit of a self esteem issue I think. So if we are out and he wants to leave somewhere I do say please stay as I need your help to stay here myself as I am nervous. Its strange but he seems to push down his own flighty feeling to come and protect me. He has a couple of times said "I dont like this" so I am hoping if he hears me talking feelings he just might do the same all the time one day. But thats another story!
I should get away with your mothers line though as he says he wishes he was "really old" like me so he can go to the cinema and watch the big films
Probably not of use to you at this stage, but for anyone with a younger child - if you do no other ABA, do the "come here" programme. At the time I just saw it as a way of getting DS's compliance so he was able to do other programmes. A few years ago I realised just how important it was in daily life, especially outside and I have always been able to manage him verbally with a "come here", "wait" and even some more obscure things like "hold your horses"!!