Hello all,
I'm posting to see if there's others in the same position really. My DS is my first child and I noticed quite a while ago that his speech wasn't coming on as quickly as I thought it would. He seemed to be hitting the milestones on a basic level, so I put it down to him being slower than others and assumed that he'd quickly catch up once he started going to nursery and having more interaction with other children (had only been taking him to a playgroup once a week before that).
He went to nursery and after a couple of months called in me and DF to say that his speech was not as advanced as it should be and they asked if they could refer him to speech therapy. No problem, any help would be appreciated. I didn't think he was that far behind but I thought that it could only benefit him so agreed.
We got the appointment through for the assessment and the speech therapist said that his problems were quite severe. I felt like a failure - for not being a good enough teacher to him, and for not noticing enough before and therefore not seeking help quickly enough.
Since that initial assessment his behaviour has got a lot worse than it was before. It's easy to see that it's due to his lack of communication - he isn't able to tell us what he wants, and gets frustrated. We in turn get frustrated because we can't stop his "strops" unless we magically guess what he wants, or we manage to distract him enough to calm him down. When he's bad it's horrible. He screams, rolls on the floor, cries, shouts, slams doors, anything he can think of that's loud or what he knows is naughty. Both myself and DF try very hard not to shout at him, but it's difficult when he's been like that for an hour or more. It also doesn't help that I've just had a baby (beautiful DD!) so our attention is now divided, which he hates. He does adore his baby sister but he doesn't like that we pay attention to her IYSWIM.
We had another assessment today and he has improved, but he's still way behind what he should be and I'm starting to wonder if there will be any light at the end of the tunnel. All we seem to have had is assessments, no actual help. The speech therapist today gave us a sheet to work on and they have also now said it may be possible for him to have a one to one person work with him when he goes back to nursery in September. I just feel helpless though, like I'm not teaching him what he needs to know. I thought learning to talk would happen naturally, day to day, as we go about our routine. I also never thought he'd be so difficult to handle, and then be such a good and wonderful child when he wasn't in a strop...
Sorry for the essay. Would love to hear advice if anyone has any to offer.
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