DS having MMR "booster" tomorrow. Please hold my hand.

[InfestationofLannisters]

When he had his first, although in hindsight already autistic, he was really ill with awful D&V for a fortnight and his diet went right downhill afterwards. He had weaned perfectly, ate all sorts, but after the jab couldn't even keep water down let alone the dioralyte the emergency doctor recommended. I got him through it on BM but it was a struggle.

I have been under a lot of pressure to get this done by the HV at every single TAC meeting.

Have looked at options such as single jabs and having a blood test done to determine immune status but neither seem suitable. I am convinced that he is immune anyway because he had the so-called "measles-like illness" a month after MMR, swine flu, winter flu, chicken pox and came through them fine, no problems. Plus he still has BM (when he can catch me) which might count for something.

But we have have problems and flags raised wrt our family. I don't want to say any more but people here know that it isn't uncommon. So I'm getting it done because I don't want anything else to go on record.

I hope that because he is bigger now, in age 5-6 clothes and very strong in terms of fighting things that all will be well It pisses me right off though because there is a good chance that there is no need for it, and all the worry, at all.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

((((hugs)))) I think it's very unfair that you are being put under pressure to do this. I don't think it causes autism, but my DS2 (ASD) hasn't had his booster and DS3 hasn't had either. Silly probably. The GP has never put any pressure on me, he was really nice about it.

[5inthebed]

Don't let the HV bully you into getting it done. If you feel that he shouldn't have it done, then don't get it done.

DS2 had both of his, and he was most definitely autistic before he had them. He was a bit poorly after both, as were my other 2 NT boys.

Good luck Op, hope he isnt as poorly.

[drivemecrazy63]

ive 3 dcs all have had this doe all were fine, what are the recomendations if he was unwell last time? my DS1 is NT was fine my DD2 nt was fine too and DS3 ASD Dyspraxia was ok even though he started getting more and more traits and language delay at 2 i dont think it had anything to do with it DS3 was asthmatic and had lots allergies at this age and my DH is AS as well so try to not worry the implications of NOT are worse i think, unless they advise in your case to abstain due to prev jab hth

[InfestationofLannisters]

Thank you. I posted and then wondered why I did and what I expected to get out of it Within two posts I have had support and validation.

I bloody love this board

[coff33pot]

I would give him some paracetamol just before hand incase he gets a temp it will keep it down. It may have been a high temp that was making him vomit when he was small

Just remember though no one can force you to get it done. It is your choice and your right to refuse. I did until they gave me a specific brand to use. But that was when the initial MMR scare was about. Its looking like he has AS but I dont feel it was to do with the jabs.

[InfestationofLannisters]

I wish they would advise us to abstain. I've asked the HV several times if we could be excused but the party line is always trotted out. And she scares me. She is very neat and prim, rather like Dolores Umbridge in Harry Potter but twice as sinister.

[coff33pot]

oooh! HV from hell then LOL

You dont have to be excused you just point blank say no if that is how you feel. If she doesnt like it then............she doesnt like it She is just a HV and she doesnt live with you. They can suggest things but they are not in a position to TELL you what to do. Has he had all his other jabs? If so its only the one you are saying no too.

I had 3 kids and couldnt breast feed. I didnt produce enough milk and my second child was admitted for losing weight and dehidration on the 3rd child the HV kept on and on about what was best for baby. I had a right hard time in the hospital (cesarean but discharged myself after 24hrs). When I got home she started again and I bluntly told her where to go on my own turf.

[5inthebed]

It is not advisable to give paracetamol before, better to give it after.

at Dolores Umbridge

[InfestationofLannisters]

Oh, sorry to hear that coff, how awful for you , just what you needed - not. Good for you!

I like your idea about paracetamol. The first MMR was given with something else I recall and he has had that part of the booster and had no problems so there is that. I wish in a way he had been admitted because there would have been a record of his illness but it's too late now and who is to say it was (a) connected and (b) which particular jab caused it.

[coppertop]

Shame on the HV for bullying you into something that you don't want to do.

Good luck with the appointment and fingers crossed for you that it's smooth sailing afterwards too. :)

[InfestationofLannisters]

Thanks coppertop

5inthebed it's so strange. DS is assembling quite the cast of Harry Potter movies. I've spoken before (under a previous name) about the Paed who looks and behaves exactly like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.com/imgres?q=Harry+Potter+Emma+Thompson&hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&hs=X5e&sa=X&rls=org.mozilla:en-GB:official&biw=1920&bih=921&tbm=isch&prmd=ivnso&tbnid=GiZbaoPhtEV36M:&imgrefurl=www.imdb.com/media/rm2710539264/nm0000668&docid=abHm0DmOPTiK1M&w=640&h=427&ei=6wc3To2xDYzD8QPO-rmgDg&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=505&vpy=92&dur=140&hovh=183&hovw=275&tx=139&ty=112&page=1&tbnh=125&tbnw=167&start=0&ndsp=72&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:0" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">Sybil Trelawny and the Ed Psych is rather like a non-sexy Severus Snape, very upper-middle, tall and well, severe.

His autism-outreach worker and I were sniggering about the fact that in the report he made, which is included in his statement, he mentions that DS made him try on various hats during a pre-school observation effectively turning him into a one-man Village People and how she would have killed to have taken a photo to show the office

[5inthebed]

We have bus drivers that look like soap opera stars, I woul prefer professionals that look like magic people :(

[InfestationofLannisters]

That sounds great! I can't use buses with DS though even though he loves them. Still, he gets to go on a mini-bus to school in September.

The Paed thing sounds mean but she wrote that DS has a prominent nose and no other facial disfigurements he bloody well does NOT in a report. Then said that she wouldn't support our mobility claim because lots of children don't walk. Her NT son needed a stroller on a hiking holiday when he was seven for example. And had tantrums in the street at two. Bonkers.

[5inthebed]

She sounds warped!

We can ony get the bus on a certain route, not that great, luckily I rive.

[5inthebed]

*drive

[InfestationofLannisters]

5, sorry, was it you I sent the crelling harness to? If so, sorry it wasn't any good but it was worth a try. I've been off-board for a while and there was so much unpleasantness I've forgotten who is who...

[5inthebed]

No, wasn't me. :)

[TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission]

I stand by my previous comment re your paed, hope all goes well today.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Good luck this morning,infestationoflannisters , hope it wasn't too traumatic (for you.)

[InfestationofLannisters]

Thank you, all fine so far and the nurse was brilliant, really understanding about my concerns

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Given him his Calpol yet? Glad the actual event wasn't a problem.

[coff33pot]

Glad it all went ok with the nurse

[InfestationofLannisters]

Yes Calpol given just now when you reminded me straight away. He is on the computer while I am slumming it trying to MN on my phone.