My DS is 2.5 and is basically an escape artist (amongst others) he can undo his car seat (and every carseat in halford 
), his push chair harness, the harness on his highchair, Ive had 5 stair gates and he either figures out how to open them of rags them off. He has always been able climb out of his cot (well from around 12mths) but he has never bothered to during the night, so things have been ok, until recent weeks when he has been climbing out several times a night (we have bought a bed DH is going to assemble it this weekend). We put a gate on his bedroom door which he now climbs over :(. He then wakes the entire house including DD1 who has ASD and doesn't sleep very well anyway!!! We live in an old victorian house with very steep stairs, if he falls down them he will most certainly do himself a nasty accident. Thankfully he's not yet figured out the lock at the top of the stairs, but i know its only a matter of time. Ive also had to move his drawers infront of his bedroom window turned facing the wall (so he cant use the draws as steps) with a blanket box on top, as he was climbing onto the window sill.
Im at my wits ends!! DD1 (ASD) needs alot of 1 to 1, especially when we're out. I need DS safe and secure at times, so that i can actually take all 3 dc out of the house!! together. We have a day out planned tomorrow and i am seriously considering securing DS into his pram with a padlock :( as i just can't see how else i am going to manage.
What i need to make my life hell of alot more bareable is some sort of anti tamper divice for both his car seat and his pushchair, and either an alarm on the safety gates or something he cant climb, but where or who can sort something like this out?
There are other behavioural and speech/communication problems, that i am at the point of seeking professional advice for.
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Who do i need to ask for help?
3cutedarlings · 28/07/2011 20:26
Thank you 
I shall give them a call and see if they can help. What sort of things have they made for you?.
The thing is i have put off asking for any help with DS as i have always thought he was just a naughty highly strung little boy, lots of friends with boys as constantly telling me that there DS's were just as bad :(. TBH this just makes me feel like a really shit mum, i constantly need eyes up my arse. I have tried every single thing i can think of, from naughty step, to trying to ignore bad behaviour (which i cant as its often so extreme and dangerous) and over the top praise for good things, i know he wouldnt understand things like reward charts yet. I seem to constantly shout at him :( its just so frustrating. I feel like i dont even like him most of them time :(. Despite DD having ASD she is/was never this extreme.
As a temporary measure can you use reigns that do up from the back and put the strap bit over the back of the pram so you can hold onto that as well as the pram handle? It may sound silly but a small suitcase lock like a combination lock to keep the pram straps together? At least he will fiddle but you will know the number to get him out
There are alarms that you can buy and are just small white blocks. One fits to the frame and the other to the door. If the door is opened an alarm goes off. Perhaps you could attach one to his bedroom door and one at a lower point on the gate (so he doesnt see it and pull it off).
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