I had hijacked Rebls post on a false accusation to post this which was rather unfair but felt I would be reaching those most affected by the subject. Apologies Rebl and I am reposting as below.
There seems to be so many people being accused of bad parenting when the professionals should actually be focusing on the child. This mistaken focus is delaying or even preventing the necessary help for the child. I have had the most awful experience of this and my child suffered unnecessary pain although I posted under another name.
I have heard so many accounts on this forum and elsewhere of dreadful experiences with these types of accusations but everyone is fighting their case in isolation. When accusations are dropped I guess many people want to keep a low profile or are left totally worn out. Quite understandably as the fear and lack of trust never goes away. Also it is not something many people want to discuss as most people will think no smoke without fire especially if the children are declared at risk.
I feel passionately that something should be done to publicize and question how common this appears to be coming. I have no knowledge of the system to know if it is really becoming more common or if it has always been the case. Not sure if anyone works in this area? I have no idea if these false accusations are due to poorly trained professionals, over reacting following baby p or if it is due to retaliation for complaints at delays and mistakes in the NHS or a genuine inability to diagnose more complex cases or even to prevent access to funding without a diagnosis. I vowed that when I proved my childs medical misdiagnosis I would try to prevent any false accusations happening to anyone else in future!! I have to see some good come out of it to make some sense of it all and come to terms with it.
Does anyone else feel like this? Could this forum be used to publicize these issues more widely and to fight for a reduction in false accusations. I think because people dont go public there is little awareness of the damaging effect that these false accusations can have on a families life.
Nothing can ever be the same once all trust has been lost in professionals. Parenting styles change due to living in fear that one phone call to social services or one trip to A & E could then result in losing your children as the false accusations remain on file. Medical records appear to be made incredibly difficult to obtain when false accusations have been made even with the involvement of the ICO despite the DPA.
Does any one have any interest in this subject or know of any organisations that would be interested to get involved or are researching this? Is this the best place on this forum to post to try to get views/help? It will obviously not only apply to parents of children with SN but those that are not easy to diagnose appear to be most affected. Is there anywhere else more appropriate for starting a campaign?
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