DS (8, with working dx of AS) is on the G&T register at school. According to his year end report, he is currently working two years ahead across the curriculum, except for writing where he is age appropriate (no progress in the last year though). His reading age at 6 was 11+, and for maths and ICT "significantly above age expectations and beyond most of his peers".
This is NOT intended to be a bragging post, as I am hoping for some guidance.
He hates school, and tells me there is too much work. Everyday it is a battle to get him to school. He does all his maths in his head and refuses to write anything down. He has a photographic memory for spellings but doesn't get them all right in tests because of the speed at which words are given, and he finds processing this and writing challenging.
He tries and works hard at school as he is a compliant boy. He is however extremely frustrated and over the last 2 years, I have seen him change from a very happy boy to one who is "carrying a heavy weight on his shoulders" and "his stomach feels dry" when it's time for school.
I believe an educational psychologist may be able to unravel his issues and have been trying to get the LA EP to see him. A million obstacles have been put in my path and school are willing to request an EP, but believe he "will not get past moderation, as there are others more severe". The HT also believes his problems are because of his AS, and nothing else.
The questions in my head are:
- Is the HT right
- Should I persist with trying to get the LA EP
- Do I get a private EP
- Where do I get a private EP who deals with twice exceptional
- Estimate of cost of private EP
I would be grateful to hear from anyone with similar experiences.