I have 3.5 year old twin sons, non ID. Currently one son is being assessed for ASD, process started a few months ago. Second son has always been spirited to say the least, but it has never crossed my mind that he needed to be assessed too, their pre-school think the same. Just recently though his behaviour has taken a downward spiral , he has taken to serious bouts of crying and tantrums when told no, hitting me, shouting at me, generally doing things that his brother does, without the added learning issues, that were red flags both to me and his pre-school. I'm now questioning whether he has some issues too.
My attention is heavily weighted towards the son that is being asessed, since I can't really take my eyes off him for any lenght of time, due to him putting himself in danger from his various antics. I do appreciate this and I try really hard to not let this happen all the time, nevertheless it does. I am now concerned that he is copying his brother to get my attention, his key worker at pre school has informed me that his behaviour has started to deteriorate with her too, and without any prompting from me, she suggested that he was copying his brother as a way to get attention.
I'm really struggling to keep my head above water, DH works away a lot, so I'm on my own a lot of the time.......I adore my boys, never believed we would have a child, let alone two, we had multiple cycles of IVF to achieve them, but feel like I'm failing them for not coping.
So my question is, is this behaviour normal for siblings of SN children, and does anyone have any experience or advise on how to tackle this.
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baboos · 13/07/2011 13:09
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