Well it has been an eventful four weeks so far. My son is autistic and deaf, Children Services received an anonymouse referral to advise that he had been left unattended over night whilst I went out drinking. Completley false I hasten to add, you cant leave my son for 5 minutes you wouldnt know what destruction you woudl face upon return. Due to this Children Services have opened a s47 investigation, they also sacked me from my job within the Local Authority as an agency social worker, they said the seed of doubt had been sown and so they felt they had no choice but to cancel my employment with them. Since this Children Services have now decided to take to child protection conference because they have no proof either way if the allegation is true or not and due to my sons increased vulnerability it has to be a child protection conference. Am also being investigated by my governing body because of the allegation.
This is the same authority whom I am trying to get a decent education for my son from and have a tribunal booked for December due to their inadequate provision to date, and the same authority that I have complained about to the ombudsman due to unethical practice from Children with Disabilities team and the manager of SEN team they left a paper trail.
They say there main concerns for child protection are his education and my not engaging with education to resolve the matter as well as the allegation, but hey ho.
My son is not in school has not been since early April due to being excluded he was in an EBD provision and they couldnt cope, home tuition starts on monday and the teacher told me on the phone he has no experience of Autism and is a secondary school teacher my son is 8 so thats gonna be a lot of help.
Local Authority refuse to accept the diagnosis of ASD as they say it was a private diagnosis, and not one they can use, has to be NHS, more delaying tactics if you ask me, I have asked them to do there own assessment and got told it will take at least 2 years due to waiting list and his age. So his statement does not acknowledge ASD it states it behaviour only, but learns in a manner compatiable with a child that has ASD.
My son is now at a point whereby he is very physically aggressive towards me, he grabbed me around the throat the other day and squeezed had to try and take his fingers away, but he was so angry and I only wanted him to eat his dinner. This was mild in comparison to some other stuff he does, social worker told me that I need to go on a challenging behaviour course, when I questioned about support to manage his anxieties which in my view will be the route cause of his behaviour and will reduce with good support for him and more technique management for myself, social stories dont seem to be working at present. His life is worked out on timelines and routines, and is never ending.
One thing that is overiding my concerns at the moment is that he will not leave the house at present, he told me its safer indoors, at 8 he wants to be a recluse, any ideas on how to tackle this would be greatly appreciated.
Im really tired and have no support, lost my job, my integrity is being questioned and my son has no one but me, his father isnt interested he says its my fault my son has his needs.
To be fair I dont know what I am asking but I am really tired and grumpy, sorry to whine so much.
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Frustrated2003 · 02/07/2011 23:08
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