Ok, bit of background .......
My wonderful DS has ADHD. I am a single mum (Dad left when DS was 4 - DS is now 11yrs).
D.A.D (Divorced and Deluded) does not believe DS has ADHD and has even told DS of his (expert) opinion and instead diagnosed him as a "spoilt brat". ExH was at initial dx consultation (Ds was 7yrs at the time) and told lovely dr that his son does not have ADHD - Dr asked what DS was like when he was with him and exH tells dr all about Ds's behaviour. Dr confirms to exH that what he is describing is classic ADHD symptoms.
DS has since had his dx confirmed by a further three specialists (1st one private, 2nd one NHS at Cahms1, 3rd one at cahms1 as cahms1 wasnt qualified to prescribe medication, 4th one at cahms2 when we moved area and had to change to different cahms) - nothing like a second opinion is there !?!
A year after initial dx decided (following much research and soul searching) I chose to use medication as my attempts at behaviour therapy (nothing professional available in my area) was having little effect and his behaviour was getting worse.
DS has very little contact with exH by mutual consent (Ds and exH's consent - personally I would LOVE some 'time off' but that is just how it is). They prob had contact for 10 hrs in last 12 months.
Last year DS picked up a leaflet in CAHMHS office about ADHD. Very useful and informative and in plain english so I took a copy and have photocopied it for new class teachers, club leaders etc .....
DS asked if I would send a copy to exH (in the hope his Dad could understand him a bit more). I sent it to exH with his latest school report.
ExH new partner sent it back to me in the post with "this is not needed, thanks" written accross the top.
Last week channel4 reported on the dangerous overprescribing of ADHD drugs (see my previous rant post).
Daily-wail printed a similar report using the same examples of family who's DS had tragicly died (coronor:misadventure) but was using Ritalin for his ADHD (and prozac for his depression). I truly feel the parents pain but if you read the report it stated the coronor had ruled out suicide (channel4 stated that he had hanged himself as he had not realised the consequences of his actions) but stated the involvement of ritalin and prozac could not be excluded as a factor in his death.
This morning in the post I receive a photocopy of the daily mail report with all the nasty, ignorant, speculative bits highlighted with "Please read some very strong concerns I have regarding (name) in HER handwriting again.
Hilighted bits include:
"he was just a kid"
"he had some problems but they were overstated"
"H was playing up a bit by attention seeking"
"ADHD is just a disease made up by drug companies"
"Ritalin is as powerful as cocaine"
"11 deaths reported in uk whilst using ritalin" (in 20 years).
"He didnt have ADHD when he was with me"
Now the grown up in me wishes to calmly turn the other cheek and throw it in the bin with a 'Hmmmph'!
The not-so-grown up in me wishes to drive over to their house, and ram the report up their .... deleated by Mumsnet.
So come on all you calm, sensible, kind, clever and logical mumsnetters - WWYD ? (inhales deeply, exhales deeply, kicks cupboard door.......)
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runningonmt · 23/06/2011 20:14
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