Sparked by another thread running elsewhere, I admit, but I have just realised that I have been missing an obvious source of help for an issue I've had for awhile. If the wise women (and men) of MN can find five minutes, I'd be very grateful for the input.
I run a youth group based around the Games Workshop hobby. We're volunteer run and get no outside support. I 'inherited' the group about five years ago from the former leader, who himself had run it for about a decade, but who, with age and other time commitments, was struggling to keep it going.
For those of you not familiar with the hobby, it's basically miniature wargaming, sci-fi and fantasy based. Very, very geeky but great fun.
The membership of our club ranges from age 8 to whatever, is open to anyone with an interest, at whatever stage of the hobby they are at.
The only rules to membership are: You must have some passing interest in some aspect of the hobby, whatever that may be and your behaviour must be 'reasonable'. We have rules, but they're very simple. The only time we ever revoked membership was for a (totally NT) 14 year old who insisted that having porn on his mobile and showing it to the 10 year olds was a good idea, and even he got month's of warnings.
Here's where my issue arises:
We currently have a member of a number of years who wants his younger brother to come. Member is 13, brother is 11.
I've had a quick chat with Mum, as I do with all potential members, and both she and I have a number of concerns. Brother has quite severe ADHD and possibly some Autistic/Asperger's-like traits, so whilst we can both see the (potentially huge) benefits of a social hobby governed by a 300 page rule book!!, there's also the aspect of safety around the (unfortunately) necessary scalpel blades and paints that the hobby requires, as well as the issue of the value of the hundreds of little models lying around, which can break if picked up the wrong way.
We run, on an average week, with myself and my husband (plus our 16 month old) and one other 23 year old adult. That's it.
Mum can't come along - she has a four year old girl as well, and to be honest, a parental presence in that way would probably generate problems by itself eventually as one of the strength's of the group, for a lot of our members, is the freedom from what they call 'proper adults'.
So, hints and tips, please? How do I include this boy? As I said, I've never before said no to anyone until their behaviour earns it and I don't want to start now. We've had a previous member with much milder ADHD, but he was older and all that was really required was an occasional reminder to stick with whatever he was doing for the night and the odd ten-minute calm-down time out in the kitchen when he got particularly wound up with something.
Any thoughts would begratefully received and I apologise if you've managed to read to the bottom of this essay.
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ginnybag · 10/06/2011 13:45
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