Thanks everyone, she seems ok now but still brewing if that makes sense. Sorry to hear about your dd coff33 she went on major meltdown due to being punished for her crimes so to speak and major attention seeeking, you just don't know when the attention seeking goes wrong. Dh still insists we have done something wrong!!
Glad she is ok that is good news And yes if you take your child to A & E she wont leave without seeing someone first. I dont know how old your dd is but mine is 21 so she can speak for herself and is NT (although was suffering extreme depression due to being having been in pain for 7 years due to undiagnosed illness and just hospital trip after hospital trip for tests at the time) they will get someone to see her and if she stays there they will make a follow up appointment if it is deemed she is safe to leave. If not they will suggest that she stay in and they will see her straight away. Your GP is also made aware of what has happend.
You do blame yourself as it is instinct to think what have I missed? did I say something? did I go to far? Its a natural think that. And in truth I am still a bag of nerves everytime she comes home that wee bit too late or stays out when I am expecting her home. Thats what good parents do hmmmm? give your dh a hug x