You should def ask about meds to help younger dd sleep.
Do you have someone who can give you a break? I know it can be hard to ask, especially if they might not do everything for your DC exactly how you would do it but it sounds like you really need and deserve it.
oh im really now-sorry i just needed to let it out. the older dd does have a diagnosis and yes shes probably angry and taking it out on me. im trying to sort out the younger dd sleep problem with cahms. i get respite for the younger one but its quite pointless really as when i get respite the older one is here. yes they both have their own rooms,i havent a room-i sleep on the sofa. the ss dont know about the older one. after years of arguing with them over schools/respite i just cant bear to go through it all again. the older dd is a adult and came back to live with me a little while ago-she had got ill and lost everything. the pair of them spend most of the night in and out to where im sleeping-if its not one-its the other. i feel angry about the situation but then i feel guilty for being angry as i know that its not their fault. i feel completly on my own.
Why on earth are you ? You're having a tough time and reached out for some support. I'm sure many of us would do exactly the same.
It's a pity you can't reach out for more real life support and get a proper break.
It's perfectly reasonable to feel angry for lots of reasons. You must have an enormous emotional burden to deal with as well as being sleep deprived and on top of that you are looking at losing your daughter. I think this makes you amazing just to still be functioning at all.
I know you can't face fighting for support but perhaps it would be worth asking SS for an assessment. You don't have to fight if they say no and if they offer you some more respite or help with your older DD it could do all of you some good.