Ds is in yr two at a small school a mile away. He has language delay and asd traits but no dx, so seems young for his age.The parents are standoff ish, a lot have grown up in same area etc, so wary of outsiders. Ds seems happy but has only been ionvited to one party in 3 years, and one playdate. School is small and caring so dont want to move him but want to improve his social life. I have v few mum friends locally, the nightmare pre school sn years put paid to that. All i can think of is putting him on waiting list for scouts. Any advice anyone? Tia
Well you are always welcome to come down here for a visit. Or we can come and pester you. Realise it's not good for what your ds actually needs though, which is regular social contact. Have you thought about beavers or Woodcraft folk for him, or do you think he wouldn't cope with them?
Why don't you invite other kids to your house for playdates rather then hoping he will be invited by others. Also I would make more effort with the other parents. I know you say they are standoffish but perhaps that is how you appear to them as well.
I am quite shy and quiet, but a few others have said the same, its not just me being negative, honestly, i made one good friend there a few years ago but she moved to scotland. The one person i am prepared to approach has a newborn so dont want to bother her.
I thinkgetting into some clubs outside school can only be good long term and you will probably find that some of the kids from school go to so you get more exposure to their Mums as well. Think about swimming [my son loves this and does it in a normal class at the local leisure centre who are so inclusive it is like a hug]. Razzamataz whichis dance/drama runs on saturdays round the country and has a reputation for helping everyone join in. Afasic run some days/courses for sli kids which might give you some like minded Mums and him some down time with kids who are similar. Nas do days at the cinema where you can make as much noise/go in and out as you need in most big towns. Bowling and iceskating are difficult for us but we are planning to try it anyway [ds is unlikey to like it but he has surprised me before]. Trust me you are not the only Mum standing at the gates in a pool of silence, it is hard and it gives the wrong message to our little ones but what can we do? My son is 5 and has no dx but is probably sli, we see the pead again in a few months but every time I think it will come to a conclusion and every time it's wait and see. He loves other children too, though luckily is unaware of playdates etc. We are never invited anywhere. One playdate in 5 years.....
Football is very competitive and if they aren't very good they will never get a touch on the ball.
Rugby are very different, completely different atmosphere. Scallypants has been going since May and it's just paying dividends now and there are times I have had to MAKE him go but it really has been worth it.