Ok so had meeting today - all very positive! I didnt blub and although it was more for the school I found the woman personable and enthusiastic and she really listened.
There was a fab moment when I was alone with her (the head had nicked to the office) and I pressed home about wantin to apply one approach to Scallypants behaviour and for the school and I to apply it together. I also said that all the approaches work initially but then very quickly Scallypants will rubbish it.
The head walked in a few mins later and she rehashed what we had been talking about - the head jumped in and said EXACTLY what I had just said. The woman looked at her open mouthed and then me - I shrugged and said 'what can I say we have an understanding!'
So lots of ideas, no real plans but another boxed ticked.
So all was well in the world - he had a really good day at school too!
THEN
I got home to a letter from the comm paed. Have been very disappointed with her already so no surpirses that she has surpassed herself - basically we dont have a dx, he's not had an observations done, the school (until the letter today) has not dont any assessments and the 2 appts have been about her obtaining info and not sharing her thoughts.
yet the letter today smacked of her wanting to lead the CAF , suggests he not only has ASD but ADHD and she says the possibility of medication (she's even decided which medication!) will be discussed at CAF
I. LOST. IT.
I have no issue with dx and treatment but I have a problem with have surprises sprung on me and it smacks a bit of 'oh flip I better play catch up and look like I know what is going on!'
How can someone write and tell you that with no warning, no consideration!
I spoke to her secretary and was very irrational to be fair... I told her that I would not sit in a room with her so you can forget the CAF because I wont be there (yeah i know )
I then said i didn't want any further communication with her and would prefer another comm paed... that will be mid April then
Oh and be extra horrid she then said she would ring the school Monday, cancel the doctor going to CAF AND cancel planned observations at the school of other children she had promised to see.
I told her she was being incredibly immature and spiteful.
I have calmed down ish
I am awaiting for a call from the head this evening.
I've really buggered this up haven't I??
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