Are you guys losing it? A portable, cheap, independent almost socially-acceptable, very effective strategy for self-soothing, preventing objects being chewed and getting to sleep is working well. And you want them to stop before they're ready?
I wish I had never taken Dd2's dummy off her she is NT but is a terrible sleeper, I took the dummy away when she was 6 and the sleeping got worse. She is 15 now an still sleeps really badly, I think she is nocturnal.
We used to keep Dd3's in a container during the day and she just had it at bedtime, she ditched it herself at 5 and we have never looked back.
My son had a dummy..in bed.. til he was 11. No-one ever saw it, it stayed under his pillow (washed every day I hasten to add!) and it helped him cope with his fears, his bad dreams etc. He NEEDED it.(He has ASD and MLD)
He's 13 now.. still has a comforter which he can't sleep without
Sorry guys, 'losing it' really was meant in jest but I didn't think to add an emoticon. The backstory is that dd (NT) is a thumbsucker and, having seen how much it helps her, I really wish ds1 was as well.
Ds 12 still have a comforter ( soft toy ) at night and through the day if he is at home.
What we did for school was sew a small toy into his trousers pocket.. This way it can't get lost and if he needs a bit of comfort he just pops his hand in his pocket
I just wonder if you could choose together a small toy or pebble or something and do the same.. ( you just sew a false patch thing over the toy so it can't come out and is always there).. It does have to be small and washable!
sort of a magic special pocket thing that no-one knows about... Or it could even be a little patch of comfort blanket sewn in.
My son is 7 and still has a bottle which doesnt go down too well with his doctors but it is a great comfort to him at night Im not sure when/if to try and stop it either,or just to see if he grows out of it himself.
DS1 is 3 and dropped his dummy about 6 mths ago. Only because we lost it tho and tommee tippe had stopped doing that version.
He has a pillow he takes with him everywhere and still has a bottle at bedtime and at 2pm in the afternoon. i know some of my other mummy friends think he's too old for it but I don't care. It comforts him. Life is stressful enough for him without having his only 2 comfort items taken away.
Let your DS drop it when he's ready. It's not hurting anybody.