can anyone help me work out what the care options are for my sister who has ds?
background
i am a canadian, living in the uk with my british husband and 2 dc. we are both teachers. i am a uk citizen.
my sister is in canada living in an isolated community, with my parents. she has ds. she can manage all aspects of self care, but is not employed nor has she ever been.
my parents are in their mid-late 60s and i am now thinking more and more about what will happen to her once they are gone.
my questions
it is absolutely not an option to leave her alone in our home town in a group home, if only because there would be no one left from our family there to advocate for her. Also she would be alone! At best i could get out to visit her once a year. this isn't good enough.
i feel like i need to explore bringing her here to the uk to live with my family- it is one of several options, none of them great, and i can think of all kind of negatives about each of them but i need to start thinking about the logistics of each iyswim
my parents' plan is 'hope they outlive her'
what i really should have done is marry a local boy and not leave home - every possibility involves uprooting her and moving thousands of miles away
Moving home isn't an option either, there aren't any teaching jobs, and i can't uproot us all to move to canada in the hopes we will luck into jobs somehow
anyway
what sort of provision have you made for your dc with ds for after you are gone? who (in a professional capacity) can i talk to about any of this?
we are of course going to assume the financial burden for her. she gets a kind of a dla back home, i don't know if she would still be entitled to it if she moved. regardless, we can support her.
i have posted here in the hopes of avoiding any weirdos who want to accuse me of importing her so she can be a drain on services/wrecking the country or whatever (if anyone with those opinions posts, i will not be responding)
thanks for any help you can give
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chibi · 30/12/2010 09:24
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