Ach. We get that, yes - well I guess five or six times so far. It is absolutely the worst bit of an otherwise wonderful service. They point out that only 25% of the children with them will pass away before their 19th birthday, so the odds are better than you think. It's just a very busy hospice supports a lot of families and by definition it's the end of life ones who will be in residence most often.
The very worst part is when you get hustled off into a room and hear the doors shutting all down the corridor. Then you know that someone else's child is leaving the building. And for a second you are standing in their shoes.
A couple of children have died at DS2's sn playgroup since he's been going and another little girl is life limited. That poor family, and so close to christmas too (not that there is ever a "good" time)